CounselingChristians

Q: I need some guidance, please. It appears clear that our teen is not saved. As a mom, what is there to do besides prayer, catechism, discipleship, and even homeschool (all these have we done since early in his life)? I have such a heavy heart for our teen. Please give me some encouraging advice. Although we correct him, discipline him, love him, and pray with him, he adamantly lies and has a tendency to be lazy.  I'm very discouraged right now. I do believe God has His own timing and He is the One who saves. But what is a mother to do? It's so grieving that our teen does not have any convictions nor repentance since he doesn't have the Holy Spirit. We have been going through the study of reformed Christian apologetics and he does agree and recognizes it all as true. A:  Here are some things to consider to help you in areas you might not be doing. What does "the childs" daily spiritual life look like? Are your children reading the Bible daily ? Discussing qu...

Unequally Yoked Q:  I’ve been a pretty difficult marriage for over 25 years. He’s never been physically abusive or unfaithful that I’m aware of, but he has been emotionally abusive. I’m to a point in my life where I’m less tolerant of his ways and feel like I’ve wasted so much of my life ignoring everything that bothers me so much about him. I’ve tried talking to him about what makes me unhappy, but he is so oppositional and hates to admit any faults. Anytime I say something, he has a rebuttal. It’s never his fault and he has an excuse for everything even if they aren’t good. What is a Christian woman to do? I know I’m my heart that he isn’t the one God chose for me. I feel that it was completely my free will. I know He’s sovereign, but I never really prayed for my husband, I just rushed into a marriage to get out on my own and be “grown up”. My husband is very difficult to communicate with, angers easily, impulsive, oppositional, hates to be told anything to do, yet needs so m...

Q:My 18 year old daughter wants a septum piercing. I am against it and my husband isn’t thrilled but considering. She is a recent Christian school graduate on track for a degree in a professional position. She also voices wanting to get Scripture tattoos ( her favorite Scriptures) at some point. She lives at home and will be most likely for the next 5 years while completing college. Although she can be a typical moody teen, I would classify her as a good respectful child. Her best friends ( Christian school grad, good child, professional degree) parents have agreed to let their daughter get the same piercing and of course my daughter wonders why it’s such a big deal to us. Am I making too big of a deal out of this? Is this a battle not worth dying on the hill for? I need a Biblical Christian perspective for why vs. why not. A: If others jump off a cliff should she too? No. As a parent you are to continue to give godly wise counsel and guide her in the ways of righteousness.  Also, ...

Q:  So, I believe in God. I read my Bible, I do Bible study, I pray and talk to God. But my life has been so hard for the last 2 years. Like really really tough with no end in sight .  I have a friend who doesn’t go to church, does read the Bible (she may pray I’m not really sure) but she has such an easy life where she pretty much gets everything handed to her.  Another girl I know doesn’t believe in God, believes in a different Jesus, she prays to spirits & her "church" has some witchcraft type ancestor ceremony stuff, and she believes she is a reincarnation of her ancestors, while claiming her ancestor spirit guides are the reason so many good thing happen in her life.  Why she is so carefree and happy? It’s just so strange to me that the people who aren't Christian, and don’t even try... are just "living their best lives". I can’t go to sleep without having a panic or anxiety attack, & am under so much stress. Thinking about all of this... I don’t w...