CounselingChristians

Q:My husband told me this week that realized he’s not in love with me.  Our marriage hasn’t been perfect but more often than not it’s been beautiful. He’s being incredibly kind. Full of patience for the fact I don’t have anyone but him (my family’s insane.) but he’s “not willing” to try to fix it. He says we’ve been doing that for the entirety of it.  I just need prayers. I need God to reignite our marriage. Life’s been hard but that is the love of my life. He says he’s not interested in anyone else, but also he’s not willing to try with me. Please pray my husband is returned to me pray for a miracle in my marriage. Pray for me to get better so that he can put faith into our marriage. Please just pray as I need all I can get I’m terrified. I’m in absolute adoration of my husband. He brought me to Jesus. He’s my best friend. I just need this to be okay. I know it will be because Gods plan for me is absolute perfection. I love just him so. A: I cant see how he is your best fridn...

Q: Why is it in convos when believing women say "my husband treats me terrible… and this is how…” but those providing responses or counsel go right to “are you a good wife…?”  I say this because I was raised in a “godly, Christian home” and guess what?! My dad just straight was a narcissist… no matter how my mom acted.  God didn’t say worship yalls man… God didn’t say slave to yalls man… men should be held to a higher standard. Yall are giving them the bare minimum and that’s not okay. A: Voddie rightfully notes that when believers go their own way (marry unequally yoked in rebellion to God's command), they reap what they sow. "You married him. You got exactly what you wanted".  Equally-yoked married couples focus on pursuing holiness, being a godly spouse. The husband loves the wife as Christ loves the Church, and the wife loves her husband. She is a blessing to him, a treasure, and he is grateful to God, and treats her as such.  In unequally yoked marriages, the be...

Q: My husband and I have been in a terrible place over the last couple of months and its heavy today. Sunday was a pretty big fight, and he said he would rather be by himself than continue like this..im not mad, I agree..but I don't want to give up.  We've become roommates. When we argue, I need closure. I need to talk things out and get back to a good place. He likes to separate until we calm down and then act like nothing ever happened, which is how things are always handled. I keep quiet about my needs because he is so much louder and more aggressive than I am, so I walk away, cry and try to pretend Im ok. There's never an apology or working things out, and his words can be so harsh its like he ripped my heart out.  I feel like 90% of the time, I'm just trying to be ok. It has worked that way since we started dating 20 years ago..but im officially on empty. I can't keep pouring from an empty cup. I've become numb, and he takes it as me having an attitude, whi...

Q: Can you please advise for my situation.  I tore ligaments in my foot I am in a boot and using crutches. I babysit all day yesterday come home to do 2 loads of laundry, I kept on getting up to reset the washer because we have to do that with the washer. Struggling to carrying the clothes to put them away (we have a 1 story level). I was getting really frustrated because my husband was texting me saying I was "ignoring him", so I told him "I was busy doing and struggling and you are just lying on the couch don’t even bother to help and I know you work all day, but I work nonstop". So yes I am mad, I was having a rough day I told him everything was going wrong. Then he left to go somewhere I told him "if you wanted to me to pay attention and spend time with you shouldn’t left". I am trying so hard to communicate with him, and of course I have been sticking up for myself that I am not going to put up with it. He has mental issues like severe depression and...

Q: I need prayers …I’m sure I know what I need to do, stay, pray for my husband...but I’m just so lost and so sad, hurt, & feel humiliated… My husband "came to God" again at the beginning of January, never thought that would happen, great but only thing is he doesn’t want to go to our local church, he wants to only watch [ redacted] preach because he claims that’s “his church”, thst he’s tired because he works all day Saturday and Sunday he "just can’t" go there physically, he tried going to resurrection service but "couldn’t" get out the door to get there. It sounds lazy excuse.  I was sad because even before he got saved he would go here and there with us. But now "not once". And he gets mad when I go. He’ll tell me to leave our 2 year old because “why does she need to go?” And if I take her he makes my oldest teen stay. Like to punish me? I’m just trying to take my kids ofc I’d love to go as a family but forsure most definitely my kids nee...

Q:  I’ve been praying as this particular issue I’ve been dealing with for a long time but just wanted to hear from other ladies their insight on what they would do in the situation because if I speak out, I’m shut down and called a nag. My husband likes to job hop. Recently he quit a job and told me he had a job offer for another job lined up but it wasn’t true. He quit because he wasn’t happy with the job. Just a bit of back story, I’ve been paying majority of the bills for years as he doesn’t sustain a job. It got so bad that my previous apartment we lived in, i broke the lease and moved back in with my parents and kids because of his lack of contribution. I originally had left because he was cheating but anyways, I thought he was a changed man and by no means is anyone perfect but we are in our own place again at the second home and he quit few weeks back and it’s a repetitive cycle. This time he says he only wants a work from home job, but that can take quite some time to find,...

A few months ago, my husband , a professing Christian, joined a group of non-Christian male neighbors to socialize... with the intention of sharing Jesus with them.   After becoming a Christian, my husband rarely drank, Now he’s drinking liquor with them every time he’s with them (several drinks already this week). Tonight while out to eat, I suggested divorce. Please pray my husband has a change of heart, stops drinking, returns to Jesus and walks blamelessly before God. Pray my husband chooses to put God/Jesus first, our marriage second, and not gets lost in this group of new friends. And, please pray my husband will never consider nor discuss nor pursue divorce. Please pray God opens his heart, mind and eyes to see that he’s backsliding and becoming worldly… he told me he’s being a great Christian witness to these friends. Pray the devil will not win, but God gives me and my husband the victory through Jesus. Thanks.  A: Sorry to hear this.  He definitely sho...