CounselingChristians

Q: Dating someone who professes to be a Christian, but is not really practicing. How to share with them your decision to remain purity focused/ abstinent, and not kiss before marriage? I’m honestly a bit scared about how someone might react to that. I’ve met practicing Christian men who weren’t ready to go that far, but I’ve also met other Christians who actually respected and shared that conviction. The “no kissing” part is usually the hardest to explain, because I know many Christians who are fine with kissing before marriage. Personally, I’ve chosen not to, for several reasons that are important to me. Sometimes I wonder if it’s even worth giving a chance to someone who isn’t fully practicing but still believes in God, and just being upfront that there won’t be sex or kissing until marriage. But I also believe that real love transcends everything and that if someone truly loves me, they’ll understand and respect that.  Advice? A: His answer tells you if hes not the one. There's ...

Q: I'm struggling with the commandment honor thy mother and thy father.  What if they do not honour or show you respect? Are you just supposed to be treated like garbage by them but yet be oh so kind and loving to them in return anyways? What if there is years of emotional abuse.  Thank goodness my step-dad has now been sober 2 years but there was years of trauma throughout my entire childhood. I'm now 33.... and now my mom drinks and if she has a bad day im the one getting messages at midnight being her punching bag. I have 3 babies under 3 they dont visit much despite them both being retired and only live a few hours away. Which saddens me because my oldest son loves his gma but shes never there. She didnt even show up for my first childs birth which really hurt. She seems to think ive ruined her life and that ive bled them dry because they helped pay for my first car, school, and other things most parents help with. I moved out at 16 and started working at 14 because they ...

Q: The last sermon at church was on forgiveness, and I need some advice. Can we forgive but then choose to love someone from a distance?  My mother continues to overstep boundaries, speaks ill of me and everyone in her life, and completely disregards my feelings saying I'm being too sensitive.  I’m not sure how to handle it at this point. I have prayed for years for a stronger relationship with her. It’s unfortunate, as she is a professing Christian who goes to church every week. A: If its those outside our family and church, possibly. But even thrn, your better off keeping things open so you can minister. Dont cut folk off as you may be the only light of Christ they see. You don't want to be like a Jonah. And if both are saved, you bless and help each other grow more like Christ, (Proverbs 27:17, Eccl. 4:12). Today far too many MZ Alpha Gen folk take a cowardly approach to conflict instead of going & seeking to resolve things. They hide out and avoid. And that's wrong ...

I'm a young teen interested in someone but i dont know which to choose a long friendship or a relationship that might not be long term. We work together currently.  A: Relationships before college age (24 tbh) rarely last. But also you need to determine is he single, is he straight, is he a real Christian or a false convert/church goer. If he is just playing along, or is a maturing real Christian evident by his life and what his day/schedule looks like when he is home.  God's will is for us to only have relationships with a believer. If you are outside God's will you will be warned, offered correction by Scripture, believers, and elders at your church. God never blesses rebellious ones who leave Him to go do their own thing.  Remember 1. Most guys are only looking to hook up or date long enough to get sex and leave after finding a new replacement. So take caution. 2. If he seems interested... put on the brakes until you probe his life and vet him as a worthy q...