Concerned bf/fiance has wandering eye
Q: My boyfriend of a year who was about to propose to me confessed to me that he sometimes looks at women when we are out and admires their beauty even one he thought was hot and looked at her boobs for a moment and then looked away. 4 times he said. He said he notices their beauty but doesn’t lust. Ive also caught him do it several times. This hurts me and makes me feel inadequate. I’m almost 40 and all these girls were around 20. It makes me feel old, unattractive, and like I’m not good enough for him. It’s like he’s saying “because he didn’t lust” it’s okay. But to me I didn’t dream of marrying a man who admires other women’s beauty any time they walk by. For me if the hottest man in the world walked by I wouldn’t even glance or care. It wouldn’t faze me. They’re invisible. All men but him are invisible to me. Why can’t he love me the same way? I see through a spiritual lens not of the flesh. I see love. And that makes everyone else unattractive to me or invisible. I don’t feel...