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Q: I could really use some prayers and also advice. My husband and I have been married for 20 years. We are 49 (him) and 48 (me). He might be on the autism perspective but not sure if that affects any of this. We struggled with infertility and went through treatments, but I was never able to bring a baby to term. We ended up adopting 3 teenager girls (sisters) through foster care, and to be completely honest, it has been a nightmare. The girls are now 21, 19 and 16. The only one we have a good relationship with is the 16 year old and we are completely estranged from the 19 year old. My husband has always struggled with depression and feeling like he is not close to anyone. I have tried for years to connect with him, but he says he never feels like I try, that I am cold, unemotional, etc. I don't feel like I am, but I am a reserved person. Maybe he is right and I don't show emotions enough, but this is not something that I have ever heard from anyone else in my life. We have no...

What do we need to realistically grasp about adoption.  Reactive Attachment Disorder is typical of adopting kids; is adoption a disaster for your family? Be prepared to look for signs of and living with reactive attachment disorder. Many are not ready for the child to be potentially & long term: constantly angry,  emotionally detached,  enraged at the drop of a hat,  unresponsive to discipline,  violent and sabotaging to other siblings, latching onto strangers, and going into destructive hurricanes of poop on the wall smearing, & life tormenting hate for decades Research R.A.D. and make sure you know what you are getting into first before the secular corrupt gubmint makes you pay as much as you would for a new corvette. Understanding most adopted kids are R.A.D. children Grasping issues   Adoptive family nightmares What are the options to avoid this?  1. Adopting newborn infants. Like newborns who havent had experiences in neglect.  [Negle...