CounselingChristians

Q: Neglectful Husband Husband ignores me whenever I bring up divorce. I’m emotionally and mentally neglected in many ways and for various of reasons feel I have grounds of divorce.  He has changed a lot of things, but the main things I genuinely am I need of he doesn’t really fix: neglect.  Is there a reason why I would get stone walled when I ask about divorce? I genuinely feel like he doesn’t love me and he is dragging me along. I need advice. A: At this point I will highly recommend tou meet with a biblical counselor. First for yourself, and then together. You could just call it "marriage counseling" when you discuss it with him, as if he knows its faith related he will likely oppose it. And it is fine to have a male counselor once you go as couples, so he wont feel ganged up on by women and so the counselor deals with him properly man to man, in a biblical way.  This should be your first step and priority instead if asking for or considering divorce. When you go they'...

Q: I'm at the point where i want to leave my husband. I feel terrible but i don’t know what to do. im so unhappy. for years i have been telling him my needs. we spend no quality time together (we just literally watch tv in our room at night), he’s always staring at his phone and ignores me. i will be speaking to him and he’ll ignore me a half the time. when i walk downstairs in the morning he doesn’t even look at me. he just looks at his phone…for a while without acknowledging me. We have 3 young kids…so i need quality time at the end of the night. i feel so unloved and unwanted. i just told him again today that he didn’t even acknowledge me this morning and after an hour of him staring at his phone sitting on the couch... he then came up to me and hugged me. he said i expect him to roll down a red carpet and say my queen has arrived.  He screams at me at times. he calls me names at times. i honestly feel like he might manipulate me too. he tells me if i leave im never going to fin...

Q:I am afraid to say this but how do I stop my heart from feeling like I don’t want to love my husband for what he did . When I did the “same “ thing .  My husband was seeing prostitutes for the last 4 years . And held it from me till the beginning of March this year.  And I revealed my secret to him that I was unfaithful to him . By sexting other men over the phone and sharing explicit pictures of me and masturbating .  I held the secret from him until about a year ago and told him.  We both were being unfaithful to each other around the same time . We were not in a good place at all . We were both drinking together at night and had two little ones at the time. And he slept with the first prostitute aroundd this time i was sexting other men .  We were both lustful due to the fact that we both indulged in pornography way before we met each other . I was introduced at 9 and him probably in his teen years but the unfaithfulness didn’t come from this for me ....