CounselingChristians

Q: My husband has been verbally abusive for several years now. Yelling & swearing at me in front of our kids. It happens every 1-2weeks. Everytime it leaves me feeling hopeless & numb. He told me that he stopped apologizing to me a while ago because it is making me entitled. I have been compeltely guarded emotionally & physically. I told him that I don’t feel safe with him & he told me that I’m the only one that can change that.  He refused to do marriage counseling because he said it’s a way for me to shame & manipulate him. I don’t know what to do anymore. I don’t want the enemy to win this battle in my marriage. I pray for us everyday & try to be brave. I can not take this for much longer. It is teaching my children that it’s okay to speak to someone this way & to be treated this way.  Please pray for my marriage. I feel stuck & numb. He is not a believer & tells me I am in a cult. A: Unsaved people act as their nature. They're trapped i...

Q: What are some things that you would recommend (to a married couple) to do prior to having a baby? My husband are waiting on the Lord to provide kids in near future, but would like to do things that are good "pre kid prep" until they arrive. Examples we’ve already thought of are starting a baby hope chest, as well as taking a baby financial class. A: My advice is study and read the Bible dsily. You will be exhausted and so tired with young kids your going to lack in the Bible areas, so put as priority (now). Bith individually and together. Plus praying together.  Next is Family financial advising, living trusts, medical directives, wills.. Do go to marriage counseling via biblical marriage counselor. You want to gain proper mindset towards each other and know how to handle decision making & disagreements so all goes as smoothbas possible. Actively care about the other over yourself.  Making sure you communicate DAILY in your marriage, and are submitting to each other in...