CounselingChristians

Q:I am afraid to say this but how do I stop my heart from feeling like I don’t want to love my husband for what he did . When I did the “same “ thing .  My husband was seeing prostitutes for the last 4 years . And held it from me till the beginning of March this year.  And I revealed my secret to him that I was unfaithful to him . By sexting other men over the phone and sharing explicit pictures of me and masturbating .  I held the secret from him until about a year ago and told him.  We both were being unfaithful to each other around the same time . We were not in a good place at all . We were both drinking together at night and had two little ones at the time. And he slept with the first prostitute aroundd this time i was sexting other men .  We were both lustful due to the fact that we both indulged in pornography way before we met each other . I was introduced at 9 and him probably in his teen years but the unfaithfulness didn’t come from this for me ....

Q: Need advice. My daughter passed away of cancer last July 4th. Her husband is filling the void with a new woman some 4 months now. He and my grandkids are a huge part of my life and I don't want to lose my relationship with my son in law snd grandkids. He's invited us over for Easter and the girlfriend and her kids will be there. I still can't accept he has a new woman but he really wants us to come and meet her. What should I do and what if I can't handle it once I'm there. I don't want to make a scene. A: The dynamic changed because of her death. The marriage covenant ended at her death, so it makes sense he would find comfort in someone else and try to move on. Yes you are and always will be the grandparents 😊✨️ and should be in your grandkids in their lives, but you'll have to take a back seat to the traditions and ways he chooses as he moves forward.  I pray they go to church, or you at least can have them sometimes and for summer vbs. Truthfully m...

Q: Do I have to go to church every Sunday? I haven’t been wanting to go every Sunday because I’m having personal issues and need more time to recover. My church is nice, However the person I ride with and attend with has a lot of the reasons I’m having personal issues. So I don’t want to attend every Sunday. I don’t want to personally list what I’m having an issue with her. I’m hoping God will either send me a different church with a way to get there or fix the conflict I’m having. A: Glad you sought out guidance on this. ✨️ No, you are not to run off to another church just based on that. We arent to hide from problems, ignore or let them fester. Scripture tells us to go to those you have a problem with, if they've sinned, and likewise they too are to go to you. It's to be resolved. Of theyre a believer thry ardny gojng to bite your head off, yheyll be open. And if mature theyll be glad you brought it to their attention, even if they arent wrong and you just misund...

Q:Biblically speaking is it ok to divorce a porn addict? They haven’t physically cheated but I’m devastated he wont let it go. A: If he is claiming to be saved or is a member at a church, get the men's group leader involved, to reach out and try to disciple him. Men need men. And this is a sin that enslaves. If he is at least open to talking with them for advice men then do that before asking fir him to go to professional counseling.  Yes, it is sin, yes it is adultery of the heart & mind, (and can even lead to ED), but as a believing spouse we are to be patient & forgive. In marriage we are to pursue repentance, correction, reconcilliation, & restoration, just as God did with us. The marriage is a shadow of the Gospel, and we arent to break that covenant, just as God doesn't with our salvation. He won't divorce us from Christ. Love pursues at all costs to reconcile, and goes to the furthest mile. Even while being treated unjustly.  Seek a biblical marriage c...