CounselingChristians

Q: Is it a sin to not want/have kids as a woman? When I was a kid I remember saying I never wanted kids and every adult always told me that I would change my mind when I’m older. That “they said the same thing” and eventually I’d fall in love with the idea of being a mother. Well, I never changed my mind. I have yet to fall in love with the idea of being a mother. There has never been a time where I looked at a cute baby video and felt baby fever. I’ve never walked passed the baby aisles in Wal-Mart and daydreamed about the cute onesies I’d put my future baby in. I’ve never daydreamed about having matching outfits with a potential future daughter. Or being the fun sports mom that bakes cookies for her child’s game. None of these things have ever crossed my mind. Of course I think babies are cute and silly. I’ll see cute videos of a baby and smile. But not to the extend where I think “I can’t wait to have a baby of my own.” A lot of people hear this and they assume I’m a liberal. Or som...

I’m 36, single, never married. I have prayed and cried about this for 2 years. I still can’t move on.  When I met the love of my life 3 yrs ago I’d never connected with anyone like I have him. I swore I was gonna marry him. He was in the military and then got orders to move overseas for 3 years. The plan was for me to stay in the US for 1 year and (last year) i'd move to be with him. A week after he got overseas... he ended things with me. He had just purchased a ring for me a month prior. He admitted he just wanted to be single and free. I was devastated.  2 yrs later I still haven’t found anyone. I still cry and miss him. He & I still keep in touch and text on occasion. We went about 8 months no contact. Lately we’ve been texting pretty regularly.  I still believe he’s my soul mate. I still believe in my heart that he & I are going to end up together. Why would God put someone so perfect in my life just to take him away?  There are days where I really miss ...

Q: I have a hardcore atheist husband who doesn’t want his children raised in the church. I married him knowing he wasnt a believer, but... I really want out of this marriage. I just don’t see a fruitful future. We dont have kids yet, & cant see having them with him. I am concerned about that and being stuck with him long term.  Can I divorce him?  A: Decisions have consequences. You chose to marry him knowingly in rebellion to God and the command not to be unequally yoked. You cant expect blessings by doing something like that. You couldve ran at the alter, and saved your life. Now, you are in the marriage so you have to stay 🤷🏻‍♂️. You are stuck. Marriage covenants are for life. *This is a 80 year decision and isn't to be be made lightly, no marriage plans should proceed without the green light by your Pastor.  Too many believers do not go get godly counsel from their Pastor, and, do not go through a couples class at church (where the believer would be be clearly ...