CounselingChristians

Will I go to hell for fornicating with my bf. Q: I have recently given myself to God and gotten baptized. I haven't had sex with with my Boyfriend in 6 months. I feel like he's losing interest. He hasn't necessarily "asked" for it . But he will throw out hints. We've been together 2 years and I don't want to lose him . Would God send me to hell if I have sex with my Boyfriend? I was baptized and washed away my sins  A: Obeying the Gospel saves you [that's when God causes you to be born again]. Baptism afterward; that is just a public testimony showing you have already died in Christ and are risen in Him. If your bf isn't Christian, share this with him, discuss it, and if he comes to Christ put boundaries around your dating, n[ever be alone anywhere (where sex could happen)]. Have him join the local church, get discipled by the men at mens group there, seek counsel from them, and grow in holiness. If he doesn't come to Christ, then exit...

Q: There has been something weighing heavily on me for a while, and I just ask for godly, but gentle and kind response. Growing up, I was always taught and always intended to wait until marriage. I was as dead set as I could be, and I never had any temptations about it… until I got to college. It’s no excuse, but I was disconnected from everyone I knew and my spiritual support, and with that I fell away somewhat.  So, I had sexual temptation for the first time ever, and I didn’t know how to handle it, and I eventually “gave in”. It’s been a few years now, and I’ve asked God for forgiveness and repented, but I’m far too ashamed to tell anyone of faith, especially my close friends and parents. I saw my close friends, who are all married now, get excited about being with their husbands for the first time, and I heard how special it is to learn and experience it together. I feel like I’ve ruined everything in that regard. That I’ve not only ruined myself, but ruined what was supposed t...

Q: I want to wait until marriage but boyfriend does not. Long distance, so kind of confused? Would this be a deal breaker for yall? He said he is willing to wait but does not want too if that makes any sense. He is professing Chrisitan A:  No. Say no. Hold firm. You obey God and live holy.  Is he saved? Pursuing holiness? He needs to be discipled by godly men at church if saved...as fornication is a serious sin, rebellion against God. Is he even a member of a church? Is he active there?  I am watching a sermon right now 😅 that touched on Jewish wedding, and I am very familiar it. The celebration and event was very expensive. Everyone in town was invited. It lasted 7 days. If you didn't invite and provide for everyone, lawsuits galore happened. But Purity is part of it pre marriage too. Dating or courting.  This touches on purity before marriage as well which you can read. Heres some resources for him And get him this book  on Purity for Men. *The book explain...

Q: Im so confused about my life.  Husband wants a divorce, I don't. We've been through alot. Been together 4 years , married for 2. He doesnt feel things will get better or I won't change into who he needs. (I found God during the hardships of our marriage) no infidelity, just bad fights and arguments.  We are staying in 2 separate rooms at the house. But he still wants to be intimate and have sex , sleep together at night some times, etc.  I let us to because I guess it makes things feel "normal" again so to speak and hope that he wants me. I figured we are still married so isnt it an okay kinda thing.  He still tells me (having sex still, doesn't change his mind) we are getting a divorce.  He's gonna file paperwork next week, and when kids are out of school he said we need to separate.  But will also make comments saying he doesn't want me to find someone else , we can hook up , etc after we separate.... he doesnt say I'm not allowed to find som...

Q: Im so confused about my life.  Husband wants a divorce, I don't. We've been through alot. Been together 4 years , married for 2. He doesnt feel things will get better or I won't change into who he needs. (I found God during the hardships of our marriage) no infidelity, just bad fights and arguments.  We are staying in 2 separate rooms at the house. But he still wants to be intimate and have sex , sleep together at night some times, etc.  I let us to because I guess it makes things feel "normal" again so to speak and hope that he wants me. I figured we are still married so isnt it an okay kinda thing.  He still tells me (having sex still, doesn't change his mind) we are getting a divorce.  He's gonna file paperwork next week, and when kids are out of school he said we need to separate.  But will also make comments saying he doesn't want me to find someone else , we can hook up , etc after we separate.... he doesnt say I'm not allowed to find som...

Q: I’m 22. I have a bf of almost 2 years.. last year I devoted myself to Christ and became Christian. I won’t sit here and act like I’ve been perfect since then.  My boyfriend isn’t Christian but he still believes God is good and he has a plan and he believes some stuff, but is still skeptical bc he’s a ‘science ‘ kind of guy when it comes to biblical things. Also I know I shouldn’t be fornicating/intimate before marriage. I know as it's in the Bible. But he says that because we plan to get married it’s okay. We have found eachother and love eachother a lot and we will spend the rest of our lives together so to him he dosent see it as an issue to say. He said back then people could just profess their love to God and be married and his eyes. Today’s marriage and back then are diffrent. We can be married in the eyes of God even tho we aren’t married in the eyes of the government yet… and I agreed bc yea? I guess?…. But idk.. idk how to feel.. I want to do things to sometimes so it’s ...

Q: Recently I sinned by fornicating again. I did ask forgiveness from God for being unfaithful again. I thought God had forgiven me (& I’m no longer participating in such activities). I had just repented and made the effort to turn from evil, but...just found out I’m pregnant. It was one brief moment!! Really and truly I cannot believe I’ve went backwards like that and my life feels ruined. I don't understand. Did God truly forgive me? Should I stop praying, because I knew better but I didn’t do better. I said yes to my flesh and now it’s costing me. I’m willing to lose everything else, but to lose Jesus because of my sin - I really cannot bare the thought. A: You dont stop praying because things dont go your way. Prayer is to align you to God's will, (not for him to act as a genie who does what you want). You becoming pregnant wasn't a punishment from God; it was basic natural outcomes of happens when humans have sex. You know Scripture teaches sex was designed only ...

Here is more info on sexual sins and the importance of purity before marriage. We are not like those in the world, we are to be holy. Just because you can be forgiven doesn’t mean you should commit sin. Premarital sex is a sin and is visibly stated in the Bible and warned against.  If your aware that’s it’s a sin don’t do it because then you are going in to it knowing it is sin and rebelliously doing it anyway....and thats wicked; not living righteously and obediently . Believers live by the righteous nature not the sin nature. It is not that it is not a good thing to do, it is commanded just as being equally yoked is. Those who are righteous want to do what is right and do it.  “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. ...

Q: I need insight on what is and isn’t okay before marriage in God's eyes ? Scripture would also be super helpful. Ive always believed in God and considered myself a Christian but my boyfriend and I had sex, have been in other relationships, or a Christian relationship before. We are now trying our best to wait until marriage (we have slipped up a few times and I know that’s wrong and we’re trying to be better.) Although I really enjoy making out with him and it makes me feel loved and connected to him when we do make out. But most of the time he will either not makeout with me or just barley makeout with me... cuz now he says it’s because it’s a sin to makeout before marriage - because it’s sexual immorality. So what falls into sexual immorality and what doesn’t? Also what are ways that we can feel more connected to eachother and show eachother our love without being sexually immoral? A: Anything that causes him to have lustful thoughts. That could be being in private places ...

Q:  Is it okay to have sex before marriage if you already know for sure you’re going to marry the person you are dating, & it’s just a matter of time before it happens? I know sex before marriage is a sin but do you think it can be forgiven if you end up marrying that person afterwards anyways? A: Right now ypu are living outside of God's Will. You need to get your life straightened out.  First, No one knows for sure theyre going to marry that person. They could die today, or before the wedding. You could realize you need to flee that relationship b4 your trapped for life in it.  Secondly, If you are actually saved, all your sins are forgiven... but why would you purposefully commit a sin just because you know God forgives? We can't use God to clear our conscience so that we feel free to do whatever we want. Its a sin, and as a Christian you should be abstaining from all sin as much as you possibly can. Jesus bore the wrath of God for all your sins. Do you ever w...