CounselingChristians

Q: I’m 20, and want to get married now.  I was taken advantage of throughout my childhood so while it may seem as though I haven’t had to wait long for marriage, I have, as I was exposed to sexuality as early as 8, and have been wrestling against lust for 12 long years now. Instead of playing with dolls and growing up as a kid should, I was exposed to sex, pornography, masturbation, toys, etc. (all the while raising my siblings).  Once I surrendered my life to God I realized that I needed to die to my hypersexuality and wait til marriage, but I am fighting every second of the day to not sin against my own body, (though I’ve been free from pornography and masturbation for a little over a year now).  I am currently in a Godly relationship (1 year next month) and the fruit does show for it in our lives: we’re both waiting til marriage, and were before we knew the other person existed, we study our Bibles daily with the aim of learning more in Christ, and we uphold the Bible ...

Q: My boyfriend of a year who was about to propose to me confessed to me that he sometimes looks at women when we are out and admires their beauty even one he thought was hot and looked at her boobs for a moment and then looked away. 4 times he said. He said he notices their beauty but doesn’t lust. Ive also caught him do it several times.  This hurts me and makes me feel inadequate. I’m almost 40 and all these girls were around 20. It makes me feel old, unattractive, and like I’m not good enough for him. It’s like he’s saying “because he didn’t lust” it’s okay. But to me I didn’t dream of marrying a man who admires other women’s beauty any time they walk by. For me if the hottest man in the world walked by I wouldn’t even glance or care. It wouldn’t faze me. They’re invisible. All men but him are invisible to me. Why can’t he love me the same way? I see through a spiritual lens not of the flesh. I see love. And that makes everyone else unattractive to me or invisible. I don’t feel...

Q: I am Christian but I am pretty sure my brother just joined a cult (that claims to be Christian).  The way they are doing things is evil and wrong. Their beliefs are twisted and not of the Bible. They call it a CLUB but they are mentoring people & teaching them some modern messed up version of the Bible that is false.  Its not a popular group. Its a small local group. I cant even find it on Google or anything. He calls it a 9-5 group. They somehow combined Christianity & modern day spirituality with an added & massive amount of greed and ignorance. He is blocked on every social media acct and phone # etc that I have. He abused me as a child so we have gone no contact a while ago, but I still talk to his children’s mother and my mom talks to him. Like I already disowned him. I asked them to keep him away from me and out of my life, and not to talk about me to him or about me, and I don’t want to hear about him either.  He claims he is praying for us all to lo...

Q: Husband revealed he sees prostitutes This is not a easy thing to talk about, but I need godly advice . I found out that my husband was paying prostitutes after work for over three years. Never showed any signs of this. He told me he had sex with over 20 Prostitutes. Also that he had an issue with pornography and lust .  I am as calm as can be, but I dont know what . Probably and more than likely God keeping and holding me together. We have three babies ages 8, 6, and 1 years old .  When we talked I brought up that i didn’t feel that things were right and he told me he never said anything due to shame . He asked me for forgiveness and a second chance . I called my pastor and i was told by my pastor that forgiveness is the will of God and I don’t deny that . But he also said that I must be reconciled with him . Because if there’s no reconciliation there’s no forgiveness . And if I don’t forgive / reconcile I would’nt be obeying the word of God .  He also said that bec...

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