CounselingChristians

Q: Dating someone who professes to be a Christian, but is not really practicing. How to share with them your decision to remain purity focused/ abstinent, and not kiss before marriage? I’m honestly a bit scared about how someone might react to that. I’ve met practicing Christian men who weren’t ready to go that far, but I’ve also met other Christians who actually respected and shared that conviction. The “no kissing” part is usually the hardest to explain, because I know many Christians who are fine with kissing before marriage. Personally, I’ve chosen not to, for several reasons that are important to me. Sometimes I wonder if it’s even worth giving a chance to someone who isn’t fully practicing but still believes in God, and just being upfront that there won’t be sex or kissing until marriage. But I also believe that real love transcends everything and that if someone truly loves me, they’ll understand and respect that.  Advice? A: His answer tells you if hes not the one. There's ...

Q: I want to wait until marriage but boyfriend does not. Long distance, so kind of confused? Would this be a deal breaker for yall? He said he is willing to wait but does not want too if that makes any sense. He is professing Chrisitan A:  No. Say no. Hold firm. You obey God and live holy.  Is he saved? Pursuing holiness? He needs to be discipled by godly men at church if saved...as fornication is a serious sin, rebellion against God. Is he even a member of a church? Is he active there?  I am watching a sermon right now 😅 that touched on Jewish wedding, and I am very familiar it. The celebration and event was very expensive. Everyone in town was invited. It lasted 7 days. If you didn't invite and provide for everyone, lawsuits galore happened. But Purity is part of it pre marriage too. Dating or courting.  This touches on purity before marriage as well which you can read. Heres some resources for him And get him this book  on Purity for Men. *The book explain...

Q: My boyfriend of a year who was about to propose to me confessed to me that he sometimes looks at women when we are out and admires their beauty even one he thought was hot and looked at her boobs for a moment and then looked away. 4 times he said. He said he notices their beauty but doesn’t lust. Ive also caught him do it several times.  This hurts me and makes me feel inadequate. I’m almost 40 and all these girls were around 20. It makes me feel old, unattractive, and like I’m not good enough for him. It’s like he’s saying “because he didn’t lust” it’s okay. But to me I didn’t dream of marrying a man who admires other women’s beauty any time they walk by. For me if the hottest man in the world walked by I wouldn’t even glance or care. It wouldn’t faze me. They’re invisible. All men but him are invisible to me. Why can’t he love me the same way? I see through a spiritual lens not of the flesh. I see love. And that makes everyone else unattractive to me or invisible. I don’t feel...

Re: trust & faith husband isn't committing any form of sexual sin with female partner in firefighter/police/military/similar or any job Q:  Need godly advice. I have trust issues, so I’m not sure if that is getting in the way of how I’m thinking right now. My husband is a firefighter. Currently, he has a female partner who is single and has messed up and knowingly had an affair with someone. I understand that is her past and can’t hold that to her now. Anyway, my husband started to tell little lies, but it went on for 7 months before he told me the truth. It wasn’t anything bad, but hiding chewing from me, when I asked what he bought, since he used a card he would lie to my face and stuff like that. He also texted his female partner drunk, nothing sexual. He’s just overly nice to her. Texting her to have a great vacation and birthday, telling her happy birthday he hopes she has the best day. All that said, I just need some Godly advice. I know it’s not cheating, but I kinda fe...

Q: I need insight on what is and isn’t okay before marriage in God's eyes ? Scripture would also be super helpful. Ive always believed in God and considered myself a Christian but my boyfriend and I had sex, have been in other relationships, or a Christian relationship before. We are now trying our best to wait until marriage (we have slipped up a few times and I know that’s wrong and we’re trying to be better.) Although I really enjoy making out with him and it makes me feel loved and connected to him when we do make out. But most of the time he will either not makeout with me or just barley makeout with me... cuz now he says it’s because it’s a sin to makeout before marriage - because it’s sexual immorality. So what falls into sexual immorality and what doesn’t? Also what are ways that we can feel more connected to eachother and show eachother our love without being sexually immoral? A: Anything that causes him to have lustful thoughts. That could be being in private places ...