CounselingChristians

Q: I’m 22. I have a bf of almost 2 years.. last year I devoted myself to Christ and became Christian. I won’t sit here and act like I’ve been perfect since then.  My boyfriend isn’t Christian but he still believes God is good and he has a plan and he believes some stuff, but is still skeptical bc he’s a ‘science ‘ kind of guy when it comes to biblical things. Also I know I shouldn’t be fornicating/intimate before marriage. I know as it's in the Bible. But he says that because we plan to get married it’s okay. We have found eachother and love eachother a lot and we will spend the rest of our lives together so to him he dosent see it as an issue to say. He said back then people could just profess their love to God and be married and his eyes. Today’s marriage and back then are diffrent. We can be married in the eyes of God even tho we aren’t married in the eyes of the government yet… and I agreed bc yea? I guess?…. But idk.. idk how to feel.. I want to do things to sometimes so it’s ...

Q: My husband and I were in a fornication relationship for years. I got right with God and he claimed to. We got married and things started back to how they were (problems on his end) before we married. I feel deceived what do i do? 😭 A: I am sorry to hear this happened, many end up like this because of bad advice or rebelliously go ahead with marriage just to be together vs obedient to God. It can be due to immaturity in faith, failure of the church being actively in your life, etc.  It is usually best to wait 4 to 7 years before marrying someone in that kind of situation. He likely "played religious" (as many men do to prevent their good thing spoiling for themselves - from whatever they were getting out of the relationship) for a time, even trapping in marriage. The pastor should've suggested or directed to wait a few years.... to 1. Have him go through a discipleship essentials for new believers course, be part of the mens group, have mature godly men in his life ...