CounselingChristians

Q: Weed Before my husband & I got saved we smoked alot of weed; it was easier for me to stop but it's still been a strong hold for him. Last year, a year after we got married, we fell into temptation again, but I felt convicted everytime - that eventually I told him we need to get rid of this and seek counsel at our church, which we did, and then since that time we didn't go back. Two weeks ago (my birthday) we went out for dinner and my one friend who was with us invited us over, so we went to hang out. She took out weed but didn't offer us because she knows that we do not smoke. Well that tempted us, and we ended up taking a drag of it. I was coughing my lungs out I immediately felt the shift from in the atmosphere. I repented... and the next day I was telling my husband how the experience made me feel etc. And for the next few days I was talking to him about it, but he didn't comment much. Last night before I went to shower I felt maybe my husband smoked again ...

Q: For many yrs my husband has been caught looking at women online, interacting with them and watching videos, as well as porn. He said sorry but then it keeps happening. I'm tired of this. Im very heartbroken and feel betrayed and unloved. Can we divorce?  A: Abandoning you for other women means he broke the marriage covenant. If he is not repentant with a contrite heart to stop sinning against God and you then he severed the marriage Covenant. He abandoned you. If its clear he will keep doing it, and has not been called to salvation [radically transformed by God into a new creation, where he hates and abhors sin & will not ever commit sexual sin again], divorce is allowed. Be mindful of the biblical options. Get further biblical counseling on this, before any decisions(!). They'll advise you need to go to the farthest furthest extent, to not divorce, until you've exhausted all possibilities.  Get a clear understanding on this here [lower on page] in the 2 part series...

I asked for a prayer and I have one more... I've been dealing with episodes of intense anger and depression and I'm only 15. I don't wanna feel this way and I have marks on my body from self harm or anger marks. please pray i can get through this. It truly hurts (they're old scars, my parents know and I'm talking to a therapist) Thank you  ❤️❤️ A: Yes of course 💜❤💚.  I will pray for you right now! I really believe this will help you 🫂💜✝️ 👏👏🙂 1. Understand about  humanity and our identity 🥰, which will help also make the Gospel and Christian living make much sense. 2. This has help for all those issues , to conquer them 💪🏆 & have victory🎊🎉 3. This has help for anger and other issues to help you conquer it🏆 too I do highly recommend you switch from a therapist to a professional biblical counselor. They focus on reality and minister & help you from God's Word. This is very important for Christians, because therapists are...

Q: I don't understand people. The sad situation is her giving her kid up and giving up herself " because she's so tired" of prayers not working her way, and doesn't have faith now.  I don't know what she wants us to do? Besides she has to help herself before anyone helps her, and she's giving up on God and her faith. How can we help? She wrote:  A: The truth is we live in a fallen world. The unsaved have it worse as they dont have God's special care over their lives. Earth is likecthe only taste of Heaven theyll get but believers earth's the only Hell we will taste. Eternity is our best life, not here.  Many come for wrong reasons and embrace a false gospel; they think becoming Christian makes your life all rosey.. .nothing is further from the truth.  Far too many think God is a genie to pray to and get what they want... and that's blasphemous. We are to align and conform to His Will. Not ours.  Believers have God as our Soverign wh...

Q: I REALLY struggle with relying and prioritizing my emotions. I take things emotionally and take them as an attack, and it’s incredibly hard for me to come out of my emotions when they’re negative. I know the Biblical answer is relying on God, not self. I know the Bible verses but I don’t know how to "apply" that.  I know God gave me emotions for a reason and they’re not inherently bad, but when they control how we view things and interact with them, it’s an issue. How do I get control over my emotions and how they skew things in my head without just turning them off completely? He gave us emotions.  A: Yes, God gave us emotions but they are to be lived out in righteousness, but because of the fall, and even if we are born again, we drag this sin stained body around and like Paul lament our sins. God has given the Redeemed the power and ability to live in righteousness by the new nature, and we are to kill, conquer & have victory over each and every one of them. We do i...

Q: Recently I sinned by fornicating again. I did ask forgiveness from God for being unfaithful again. I thought God had forgiven me (& I’m no longer participating in such activities). I had just repented and made the effort to turn from evil, but...just found out I’m pregnant. It was one brief moment!! Really and truly I cannot believe I’ve went backwards like that and my life feels ruined. I don't understand. Did God truly forgive me? Should I stop praying, because I knew better but I didn’t do better. I said yes to my flesh and now it’s costing me. I’m willing to lose everything else, but to lose Jesus because of my sin - I really cannot bare the thought. A: You dont stop praying because things dont go your way. Prayer is to align you to God's will, (not for him to act as a genie who does what you want). You becoming pregnant wasn't a punishment from God; it was basic natural outcomes of happens when humans have sex. You know Scripture teaches sex was designed only ...

I have a nephew who is going into his senior year of high school. He has expressed wanting to go to college out of state. He lives in a nearby State with his family, and my husband and kids are in in a big house.  We have already told him that he would be welcome to come live with us to attend a local college (we are in an area where there’s lots to choose from). In a recent conversation, we found out that his family has been “too busy” for church and they haven’t been attending for some time, so much so that he and his siblings no longer know if they believe in Christianity. This hurts my heart because my brother is strongly Christian in his beliefs. But his wife isn’t, and I guess with the lack if his leadership in the home, she hasnt grown stronger in her faith, and overall that and some complacency seems to have contributed to this affecting their children. My question is this- I had the thought of making it a requirement that he goes to church with us. He can live here for f...

Q: I have a professing Christian friend who has a weakness for men. She shared with me that she recently fornicated with a good male friend of hers more than once and she wants to do it again but she knows it’s not right. She knows she should end the affair with the guy but because they have great chemistry within their friendship, enjoying what they’re doing and for being friends for so long it’s hard for her to. She said they never dated or intended to. They both find each other physically attractive but never had thoughts of wanting to pursue more than a friendship with one another. The first time it happened one night when they were together they said they just got “caught up in the moment” and said that it was never planned on either ends for them to have sex that night. She knows what she’s doing is wrong so she purposely shys away from prayer and reading her Bible because she knows it’s possible than God can change her mind but she doesn’t want to do so as of yet. Bottom line is...