CounselingChristians

Q: My spouse says he believes in God but not the Bible itself (because he says it’s man written). I tried to explain about it being inspired and the Word of God.  In some areas of conversation he agrees but also doesnt believe other things in the Bible. We have been having religious discussion for 3 days now. He had asked where Hell is. He starts in on how do I not know and that it’s in the center of the earth. I said yes some people do think that because it’s the hottest. I said but I am not God, yet Scripture seems to say it is below. Wherever it is, it is. That made him mad because I just don’t say yes you’re right. At some point he stated he’s not a sinner. I explained the Bible says we all are sinners, and that is why Jesus Christ came for us. So now he keeps saying I calling him a sinner. I say it’s not true because the Bible says we are sinners and it speaks the truth. He is upset that I don’t agree with him. He doesn’t want to be with me and has gotta so angry that he tr...

Q: I’m worried about my adult son. I pray but it seems evil prevails.  My husband (yes still married) left to live with his mistress. Our young adult son, finishing school still lives at home.  Before his dad left, he was studying the Bible. He even got baptized & found himself a church. He was so determined to serve God. He has heard me praying for my marriage & for our family for years. The mistress has caused mental anxiety & trauma for both of us but the biggest thing is that my son stopped believing. He said God has seen all of it & heard me praying for years & we also get the opposite of what I pray for. Everything in the kid’s life just kept going wrong. So now he says pretty bad things about God & that terrifies me. I know we are all responsible for our walk in life but I also know the dad & mistress is the cause of his unbelief.   The only verse I know is the one about being better with a mill stone around the neck than to cause a...

Abused spouse, separated & divorcing Q: I've had to leave my abusive husband, and need clarity on my situation, biblically.  When getting married my husband acted so good to me. After a few months his true colors started to show and he started to abuse me emotionally and verbally, and escalated to some physical abuse.  We have been married about 3 years and have a 6 month old.  He shows no repentence. He apologizes and acts victim and claims to be sorry but then never changes. Physical abuse got worse, he shoved me while I was holding our baby during a freak out. I want nothing to do with him. I never wanted this, but he told me with his own mouth my safety was in danger. All I wanted to be in life was a godly wife and mother I left him and the state a month ago. Some say that according to the Bible I can never remarry again, and this doesnt seem right 🥺😭.  I want my child to have a good father figure in her life.  A: Not sure if he is professing believer....

What to do if a believing parent becomes Atheist or leaves Christianity? Q: He deconstructed and became atheist but is willing "to play along for the kids sake" for a while, but will need to tell them at some point. And mom asks "how to do this so it doesnt destroy their kids faith."  A: If he is doing all of that, and daily in the Bible... he should've been bringing his contemplations and struggles to the men's group or his pastor so he gets his questions answered. The church is where our life is and where we seek counsel. People have to stop acting like Christianity and faith is a solo life. If hes willing to play along, then why not have him talk to a Pastor and seek to  resolve the struggles . This could be the key. He just had doubts, and had no one giving him answers but atheist youtube videos [He was seeking answers in the wrong places; he shouldve been in the Word to get his answers, not in the world cesspool of social media].  If he has no interest ...

How do I get my kids to get along? They are 10 (girl) and 13 (boy). They feed off of annoying each other. I ask them over and over to stop but they don’t listen until I yell. They are constantly bickering. I bought a Bible study about loving your siblings from Not Consumed. I thought it would help but they just laugh about it and don’t want to do it. I am at my wits end.  Is it too late to get them to be nice to each other? A: We live in a sin stained world with unsaved kids at home right? The only thing that can help is model righteousness, behavior that God wants them to learn (or that restrains them as we train then up) and to share the Gospel. God does the transforming. Until then they will only do moral things when it benefits them, and will do self [sin nature] things the rest of the time. * if this is a two parent home and your husband is saved, it is good for him as authority in the home to begin a (mandatory) daily family worship hour where they learn the Bible and princi...

Got saved - now unequally yoked marriage Q: Need godly advice 🥺. I been with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 beautiful kids together. A 9 and a 3 year old. My husband is a non practicing catholic. So was I, but a few months ago I started going to church, reading my bible, and just trying to get closer to God. Let me just say that getting closer to God has opened my eyes and it has taken all the pain from been years on depression away. now I consider myself a Cristian.  I constantly talk about how much I love God to my husband and he always seems bothered when I talk to him about that. He says it doesn’t bother him but I can tell it does bother him. Today we got into a little argument and he brought out my relationship with God. He told me that ever since I started going to church I’m not the same anymore and he doesn’t like that. Before I followed God I was a mess. I used to drink a lot , curse a lot, wear revealing clothes, and used to listen inappropriate music, etc, etc...

Q: I grew up as the least favorite child to a very religious woman. Mom was all about church and God. She would get my sister's hair done, while I would be messy headed. Once I wore sister's sweater and got a spanked with an cord and couldn't go to my friend's party.  I know she doesn't love me and if I am ever in need she won't care. She doesn't care.  People at her church were very cruel to me growing up and she never protected me.  I left church alone because of all this but recently I have found God again. I rededicated my life and left my living situation because I would not live in sin anymore.  I am currently homeless, my children and I are living in a temporary shelter. I have been blessed with a great job, and I am so thankful that we aren't sleeping outside. I just feel like God doesn't see me trying or care what is happening to my family.  My mother has no idea I rededicated my life ... because since she started a church (it has had like 6...

Q: My husband and I have been together for over 16 years. He tried to help me and told me to "not believe in" what I believed in.  But I don't understand why he never went over the Bible with me or prayed with me or anything.  I also don't understand why he didn't teach his kids the Bible or raise them on it, especially since "he loves Jesus so much". I just don't understand that. If he would've just sat with them and taught them it might have made me come around. And instilled Christ in them. Most parents who are Christian teach their children and raise them as Christians. So I don't understand why he said he was for me to "interpret" myself and he didn't want "to force" anything on his kids. I don't understand why he didn't do that 😞.  My father definitely made sure to talk to his kids about his beliefs and tried to lead us to belief and understanding. I just don't understand why he never tried to steer ...

How do I encourage my friend who is struggling in her marriage? Her major concerns are that her husband isn’t providing and he feels like his masculinity is threatened by her bc she has been independent single mom for so long and now there is a new baby on the way. He’s not doing anything to provide for his new family. This caused her to be angry, saddened and has lost respect for him. Everytime they try to talk it out it leads to anger and disrespectful behavior.  She is providing for him and the family. He says he wants to go to school and study but isn’t doing anything about it he just talks about doing things... What Bible verses or advice could I give to her to stay encouraged? A: No one goes into a relationship or marriage knowing everything. It is like sanctification... we learn and grow and apply what we learned. We make corrextions, show patience, love, grace and firgiveness, and serve, encourage & byild each other up. It is like a mini church governed by G...