CounselingChristians

Q: Why is it in convos when believing women say "my husband treats me terrible… and this is how…” but those providing responses or counsel go right to “are you a good wife…?”  I say this because I was raised in a “godly, Christian home” and guess what?! My dad just straight was a narcissist… no matter how my mom acted.  God didn’t say worship yalls man… God didn’t say slave to yalls man… men should be held to a higher standard. Yall are giving them the bare minimum and that’s not okay. A: Voddie rightfully notes that when believers go their own way (marry unequally yoked in rebellion to God's command), they reap what they sow. "You married him. You got exactly what you wanted".  Equally-yoked married couples focus on pursuing holiness, being a godly spouse. The husband loves the wife as Christ loves the Church, and the wife loves her husband. She is a blessing to him, a treasure, and he is grateful to God, and treats her as such.  In unequally yoked marriages, the be...

A few days ago I turned 84 years old.  I became a Christian when I was in college at the age of 19, so that means I’ve been a Christian about 65 years. I’ve seen a lot in that time span.  When I woke up this morning (much earlier than I would have liked) I began to think about all the Christian parents I have known during those 65 years who were vastly disappointed in the way their children turned out. I’m not talking about half-hearted Christian parents, but devoted Christian parents who took their parenting very seriously. Naturally, the question that arose in my mind was why. Why did all those good intentions fail so utterly? In several cases I was so close to those parents that I was greatly distressed at what happened.  The next thing that came to my mind was all the serious young Christian parents that are now setting out in their parenting career. Some of these are my grandchildren. Will they come to the same grief with their children? Why does this tragedy get rep...

Q: I grew up as the least favorite child to a very religious woman. Mom was all about church and God. She would get my sister's hair done, while I would be messy headed. Once I wore sister's sweater and got a spanked with an cord and couldn't go to my friend's party.  I know she doesn't love me and if I am ever in need she won't care. She doesn't care.  People at her church were very cruel to me growing up and she never protected me.  I left church alone because of all this but recently I have found God again. I rededicated my life and left my living situation because I would not live in sin anymore.  I am currently homeless, my children and I are living in a temporary shelter. I have been blessed with a great job, and I am so thankful that we aren't sleeping outside. I just feel like God doesn't see me trying or care what is happening to my family.  My mother has no idea I rededicated my life ... because since she started a church (it has had like 6...