CounselingChristians

Q: My young 9 year old brother was caught watching porn. We had a family meeting about it, and he was there. The parents argued. How can we/I help my brother, with this issue?  A: This is a growing issue in families today. It has been called the New Drug.  It can cause arguments among parents if both or one are not true born again believers.They should have a united front and discussed it before the sit down. There might be a "personal moralism vs righteousness" problem, if one isnt saved but they need to address this issue.  Your brother obv understands this is a big issue (since the adults argued at the intervention meeting), but hopefully, at minimum, it scared him off from ever looking at those things again. Boys with free access to devices and computers, [(as well as their friends and at school) & if lgbt cult infiltrated his school], will now be looking at this stuff by age 10.  So by age 9 there should be convos in a Christian home from a health & body...

Should we divorce? When did you know to leave? I’ve been married for 10 years. We’re in our early 30'. We have had a very hard marriage with more bad than good seasons. We’ve been through so much (cheating, alcoholism, polygamy, and abuse) that we aren’t friends. We’re coparenting roommates. All of this was before I gave my life to Jesus and started living for Christ. Everything about me radically changed. But my husband has stayed the same. He has intentionally sought out other woman to hurt me (his words) because our bedroom activities have changed. We still are intimate but I’ve drawn the line when he is drunk. He drinks every night and has gotten physical with me when I say no (to intimacy at night because of how drunk he is and has hurt me at times). I am suspicious that he is on social media, snapchatting or texting other women but I’m also at the point where I do not care. He does not have a relationship with Christ. He says he prays but he doesn’t go to church, doesn’...

Q: I’m African in Africa... and a currently seperated from my husband (on our way to divorce) and I am dating another man (who is in a similar situation as myself but still lives with his wife in the same house but different rooms). No man has treated me better or has been half as thoughtful as this new man has. Even though his marriage is so bad, divorce is not an option for him right now, because of certain circumstances. I have been praying a lot and I’m starting to think maybe I should go ahead and marry him "as a second wife". This is something we have both talked about. Our culture allows multiple wives. This man will make a fine fatherly example for my son and I deeeply love him and he has gone above and beyond to proof to me that he feels the same way in many different situations. What should we do? What should be considered? How do we know if is it God's will that we marry? A: There are variables here that need addressing to counsel you on this matter.  ...

Q: I have a hardcore atheist husband who doesn’t want his children raised in the church. I married him knowing he wasnt a believer, but... I really want out of this marriage. I just don’t see a fruitful future. We dont have kids yet, & cant see having them with him. I am concerned about that and being stuck with him long term.  Can I divorce him?  A: Decisions have consequences. You chose to marry him knowingly in rebellion to God and the command not to be unequally yoked. You cant expect blessings by doing something like that. You couldve ran at the alter, and saved your life. Now, you are in the marriage so you have to stay 🤷🏻‍♂️. You are stuck. Marriage covenants are for life. *This is a 80 year decision and isn't to be be made lightly, no marriage plans should proceed without the green light by your Pastor.  Too many believers do not go get godly counsel from their Pastor, and, do not go through a couples class at church (where the believer would be be clearly ...