CounselingChristians

Q: Help, how I’m going to survive a separation into divorce! I feel like I’m literally dying. Not sleeping, not eating. Losing weight. Losing hair. Can’t function. The reality of my 11 year marriage ending. I feel like I can’t survive. We have 3 young children. I have no money. No career. I own nothing. I’ll also have to see him everyday, because of our children. I can’t even grieve in the way of out of sight out of mind or something.  We are still sweet to each other. So much love there. But... he gave up. And no changing his mind. I can’t do this. 💔😭 A: Prayers for God's peace over you as you trust Him.  I dont think that sounds like behavior of a saved man. He would go to the pastor for counsel, seek out professionals and do all he can for the marriage. I dont know the details of why you're separating or headed towards divorce. I dont want to assume who is at fault for why it got there, but hopefully you were living in submission to him [on non Faith matters] and living ...

Q: I am uncertain about how to proceed and need guidance. I am unsure whether I should continue to pursue my ex-boyfriend. His behavior was unacceptable; ejected me and our newborn from our home. I desire to maintain a unified family, but its leading me to question whether God intends for us to be together. A: He's not husband material. No nope nopity nope. Never reconnect to him for any kind of relationship.  Be grateful to God that You dodged a bullet. Or rather, didn't get chained to such a person for life! The devil dupes women to think they need to marry the person they had a kid with, when fornication is a one time thing, but where as chaining yourself to Satan's child for life as a wife is a life ruining trap. It's a wrong and unfortunate deceptive mindset. God has said NOT to marry unequally yoked , so it wasn't God's plans for you to be with him at all; from the beginning. Usually the woman compromises to her peril; feels she can't do it alone, fe...

Counseling separated couple  Issue: wife left. But appears theyre still spending some time together. Not sure if they have kids.  1 Corinthians 7:2-5 tells us we can deprive ourselves for a limited time to devote to prayer. Verse is talking about marital sex, but it can also apply to taking a limited time away from eachother to refocus on yourself, each other and Christ.  Not sure what others have advised, but my first thought was to share some things for you to do for yourself, and that would be from the Word,  self reflection and action for changes you need to make. It is not always true that you are the one at total fault for why it got here, but usually if somethings wrong... the husbands the one who ultimately dropped the ball.  Unless the wife turned from God and just wants to live in worldly sin. But that problem can also stem from him not being the proper responsible head of the house, and leading the wife in Christ in the marriage.  So since I don...