CounselingChristians

I am looking for apologetics for a rising 8th grader. A little background - he was raised in public school until 6th grade and knows way more about the world than I wish he did at his age.  He was baptized several years ago, but hates going to church. We have to force him to attend with us and go to youth group. He says he is a christian, but his music choices and friend choices make me question if he truly has a relationship with God.   I was looking for a Apologetics resource in particular about sexuality. Or finding a good book for his age, who may already know what all of the issues are with gender and sex? I am also looking for something to teach general apologetics to help him have a strong foundation for his faith, as he is almost 14 and time feels limited to work on this 😬. A: I see a lot of potential here in your parenting that young one! 😊 If you use good resources you could have him point out what is biblically wrong with things he sees in the world, and that mak...

Q: My husband has in the past looked at girls on social media. He deleted both for now, but did mention he was planning to go back on Facebook and I lost it and said no. [You lost those privileges when you looked at other women like 17 women].  *Once I caught him looking at a girl in a bikini and zooming in. I flipped, but eventually moved past it. Fast forward fo a few months ago where I felt like I should look at his acct. I never really do that. So I pulled it up and in the search bar were a bunch of girls names. He said it all started with him looking at some guy’s reel and then just went down a rabbit hole, but swore he didn’t look these girls up and doesn’t even know their names. It was awful. I feel like in a sort of depression now. I have started to work out as i feel insecure about my weight now. I know he is attracted to me he flirts with me and does make me feel wanted.  He said he doesn’t watch porn and has repented. He got an app called accountable2you which sends...

Q: What to say to someone who is dying and has in the past rejected Christ/Christianity due to their research? A: Usually people seek out things that align with what they want to believe [idolatry]. In this case it's that they dont want to be accountable to God for their sins [crimes against God], and prefer to believe they go non-existant after death. This is their view because they are still trapped in their sin nature, so they are blinded & led by it. People like him do not have all the knowledge they need to fully reject the true Christ & truth of biblucal Christianity, so while alive there's still hope. It is possible he has replied because he really does have concerns of death, whats next but also still trying to find out if there really is truth in Christianity. So be encouraging and pray until he steps unto eternity. Then leave it in God's hands.  I would say (in email reply, by text or irl), something like: John, thanks for replying. I know you are hav...

Q: My husband's best friend died last week in a horrible accident. He was only 26 years old. My husband talked to his friend about God, but his friend was never interested nor did he turn to Christ.  Something my husband now struggles with is believing his friend has gone to hell. How do you comfort that type of wound. My husband has almost grown bitter with God. I'm not sure what to do 😥. A: Do we know what happened in the last few minutes? Remember the thief on the cross? Perhaps he didnt die instantly and at the last moments, prayed to God for genuine salvation. Hold to such hope.  First, do comfort your husband with appropriate Scriptures, and ones that call him to rest in and trust God. Secondly Pray for him, and for the sin of bitterness or resentment to not take hold of him, and to not blame God. Thirdly remind him of truth. And that he was faithful to share biblical truth and the Gospel. That is all you can do. The friend had his whole life to get right with God. ...

Q: I know life doesn't always go in our ways. I left my HS friends and now I'm all alone. I am too embarrassed for them to see me, because some have their car some have their own houses and some even have a relationship. I see them and it hurts. In a Christian perspective.  How can I manage this? A: Depending on your age, you mightve heard of something called "Keeping up with the Jones's", its basically 'coveting and wasting money' to keep up with what others have that you desire to have too. It is a sinful minded mentality. So, in this area, it seems you are focused on the temporary things of this world and your heart and eyes are not on Jesus. It is possible you are a new believer or one who hasnt grown in understanding about a godly righteous life that follows Christ. Scripture says things like life is but a vapor, old things pass away, we are new creations, we live in the world but not of it. Do not desire what others have, follow Jesus. God provide...

Q: 😩 😥 I was 32 days sober and then last night I slipped up. I am beyond mad at myself. A: Repent and move on. Addiction is an awful illness and the more you feel ashamed of it the longer it has control. Stop counting days. That in itself makes you think about alcohol. Just focus on filling your mind with other things. Keep yourself busy. One day you'll wake up and realize it's been 6mo, a year, etc. And Praise God 🙏. Remember what a joy that tomorrow is a new day and a new chance at a fresh start!! Acknowledge and, recognise what triggered it and then give yourself some extra compassion. You're not less of a Christian for struggling, you are in process of conquering that sin. Habbits/behaviours bring comfort & familiarity, especially If it's been a long term thing. You're not alone. I'm proud of you for facing the failure or "stumble". It is in the past now. Give yourself some grace, get back up and finish the race. 😊 If this helps and...

Q: People hurt my feelings so I left church. Was I wrong?  I grew up going to church. I was born and raised in the church that I have attended for the past 29 years.  I learned how to play the guitar sometime in high school and I started playing for my church's worship team. I was the only female playing an instrument and I feel like I was never taken seriously. I was never taken into consideration when they had events, like when it came to matching outfits I was always wearing something else because the memo never made it back to me. The engineer never learned my name, even though I was there multiple times a week for practice and services. My guitar was constantly without any sound once the service started. I never made it a thing because I knew that I wasn't playing for anybody. I was doing it for God and because it was what I love to do and most importantly, bc He knew my intentions and my heart. But one day, just like many other times, my electric guitar did not have any ...