Fornication led to pregnancy

Q: Recently I sinned by fornicating again. I did ask forgiveness from God for being unfaithful again. I thought God had forgiven me (& I’m no longer participating in such activities). I had just repented and made the effort to turn from evil, but...just found out I’m pregnant. It was one brief moment!! Really and truly I cannot believe I’ve went backwards like that and my life feels ruined.

I don't understand. Did God truly forgive me? Should I stop praying, because I knew better but I didn’t do better. I said yes to my flesh and now it’s costing me. I’m willing to lose everything else, but to lose Jesus because of my sin - I really cannot bare the thought.

A: You dont stop praying because things dont go your way. Prayer is to align you to God's will, (not for him to act as a genie who does what you want).

You becoming pregnant wasn't a punishment from God; it was basic natural outcomes of happens when humans have sex. You know Scripture teaches sex was designed only for a husband and wife, with the gift of children being a blessing to them.

Read Deuteronomy 23:5 re curses into blessings. Read 2 Samuel. It shows detailed examples of consequences. Consequences don't always disappear because you repent. But He will turn the consequence into a great thing for you.

Things to clarify and guide you now that this is where you are...

Just a brief note before going into the below counsel. Until you give birth you don't know if you will miscarry.  Not that you want that to happem but these things happen. And dont pray for thst; its wickednesd. Read about David and the consequences of his sin, lead to the baby's death. If the child passes away, you will see em in Heaven, and you will take this lesson seriously to not fornicate ever again.

Important: do not marry the babys father(!) That would make matters MUCH more worse; if he is not a true godly Christian, leave him. Yes you have to share custody. That's part of the consequences. But do not marry him!!. Do not fall into that [the devil's] trap! You must find a godly mature believer as husband; to be the leader of the home, and spiritual leader at home. You must obey the command to not be unequally yoked! It is a lifetime covenant to take seriously.

Repent of your fornication sin and stop sexual sins!! Not just feel bad and temporarily stop only to go back to doing it [sinning against your body and God]. That isnt contrition and repentance but only useless worldly sorrow. As part of your determination to live rightly from now on, and due to your situation, go get counseling from your Pastor about this situation 👉so you can properly be guided "going forward" and for whats to come. Christians are here to help you in the ways of righteousness, not mistreat you. So 📍take all counsel with a humble loving & grateful attitude. 🫂😊💜

If you are not a member of a local biblical church... this is your next step. As a Christian you MUST be a member of a solid biblical church. And you must be active there and to submit to be accountable to the leadership for your Christian life and growth. They shepherd you (that includes Sunday school teachers), and you can gain godly counsel from mature women there as well. Plus the women who have had and have kids there can teach and guide you in pregnancy and motherhood seasons in your life, to bless. 😊

God works all things out. Even though you were not walking in holiness, you can now get right with God and start growing into maturity 🫂💪✝️. 

You can get varied assistance to help you through pregnancy from your local church, its members, and additionally local Christian crisis pregnancy centers too. The centers are funded by donations and may be able to help you through the first 2 years of the baby's life if you have financial difficulty or are poor.

You need your local church as your core community now more than ever, both for growing in faith & helps with your child, [incl. raising em in Church & at home in the Lord]. 

A good idea would be to try to find out from the church leaders and pastor(s) who they know is a solid godly mature believer [man] in the faith who is 1. Single, 2. Desiring to marry & 3. financially capable of at least providing necessities for his family. These are the basic requirements for a husband; the only one needed. See the story of Ruth. Marriage is about sanctification not love. [Love can grow and should be there among believers, and is why he will love you as Christ loves the Church]. Marry one of these godly men. *That is a untapped resource Christians today fail to look for a spouse.

Here are resources to help you grow in your faith and helps to raise your child in the light of Christianity. 📌

As far as your walk... this happened because you were not killing sin in your life and fleeing from or keeping yourself away from places and people that would lead to temptation. Joseph fled from Pharoah's daughter. Scripture clearly in many places speaks against fornication for many reasons (including your outcome & all the hard days to come).

Your lack of staying in the Scriptures daily and obeying it are also reasons. If you flee God instead of staying close to Him [by Scripture & holy living] then you will fall into sin, and some lead you far from God.

Start keeping short sin accounts to keep your fellowship with God close. Stick close to Christ your groom. You have to build that relationship and fellowship. It needs to grow into maturity. So keep short sin accounts so you dont cause God to block your prayers. Repent, turn from sins, conquer sins, be reconciled to God, restore the relationship. Don't run from him again (and go into the world chasing things that show your salvation wasnt true which leads people to Hell). Jesus said Go and sin no more. Take sin seriously and conquer it.

If you are born again, you can do it. God is with you. Loves you and wants you to become perfected by the day you die when you finish the race 🏃‍♀️ after persevering to the End. 👑 🎊🏆

God bless.