bf broke off relationship but she's still clinging

I’m 36, single, never married. I have prayed and cried about this for 2 years. I still can’t move on. 

When I met the love of my life 3 yrs ago I’d never connected with anyone like I have him. I swore I was gonna marry him. He was in the military and then got orders to move overseas for 3 years. The plan was for me to stay in the US for 1 year and (last year) i'd move to be with him. A week after he got overseas... he ended things with me. He had just purchased a ring for me a month prior. He admitted he just wanted to be single and free. I was devastated. 

2 yrs later I still haven’t found anyone. I still cry and miss him. He & I still keep in touch and text on occasion. We went about 8 months no contact. Lately we’ve been texting pretty regularly. 

I still believe he’s my soul mate. I still believe in my heart that he & I are going to end up together. Why would God put someone so perfect in my life just to take him away? 

There are days where I really miss him and there are days when I really just want to move on & find someone else. I’ve tried to date and I compare every person to him.


A: He moved on. So it wasn't meant to be. He doesnt sound like a suitor anyway as wanting to be free and single is code for sexual sin chaser. 

What you are doing is living in the sin of relationship idolatry to where you dont want to be alone and are trying to "make it" happen so youre in a relationship or get married now now on your timing. He is not the license of your life, and God wouldn't bless that as it was clearly unequally yoked anyway. And if he stuck around it was/would be to keep you in the back of his fishtank hoping he could fornicate with you if and when he ever came back to the area where you live. Immediately...Cut him off. Block him and cut all contact. Do not chase this as it will burn you and leave you with bad regrets for pursuing it in sin, and the consequences of rebelling against God. Avoid him if you ever see him again. 

You blinded yourself from truth, to go your own way. You have to stop fantasy-dreaming chasing, and course correct. Go live for the Lord. The right godly man for you will come in God's timing. I suggest repenting over it and moving on. It does you no good to do what you are dwelling, dreaming and clinging to. 

Grow in holiness and mature in the faith, and be active at your local Church as a member. So when the right guy comes along he will be drawn to you and not pass you by. God gives us time to mature on the Faith while young cuz once married lifecis so busy it's hard to have timd to grow in the Word, even with limited family bible hour led by your husband. 








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