Looking to date coworker
I'm a young teen interested in someone but i dont know which to choose a long friendship or a relationship that might not be long term. We work together currently.
A: Relationships before college age (24 tbh) rarely last. But also you need to determine is he single, is he straight, is he a real Christian or a false convert/church goer. If he is just playing along, or is a maturing real Christian evident by his life and what his day/schedule looks like when he is home.
God's will is for us to only have relationships with a believer. If you are outside God's will you will be warned, offered correction by Scripture, believers, and elders at your church. God never blesses rebellious ones who leave Him to go do their own thing.
Remember
1. Most guys are only looking to hook up or date long enough to get sex and leave after finding a new replacement. So take caution.
2. If he seems interested... put on the brakes until you probe his life and vet him as a worthy qualified person - godly husband material. The Scriptures say nothing of dating because it was never a thing. It is a modern invention by sinful men to have free access to women for sex vs paying a prostitute. More biblically was an arranged marriage by parents seeking and vetting a worthy suitor. In recent but not modern times courtship put the vetting in your hands and with church and pastor&pastors wife guidance. It is not to be taken lightly; could land you in loads of problems if you are not protected and even have a chaperone with you to prevent being sexual prey by the intended.
3. Workplace relationships can get messy. Not only can the person you are seeing ruin your reputation at work, and gossip about you while together or after a break up, but it will cause you a lot of stress and anxiety. You might even highly likely need to find a new job. And rumors might follow you.
It is hard to determine if a relationship through work is worth pursuing, so just take a long time to get to know the person really well, but dont be alone with em. You can let him know you are a Christian and take seriously getting to know someone before dating them. Because really, if it is meant to be that person will be respectful of you and God and if meant to be God will be in it (not your "desires"). So live rightly as a believer in the boundaries God would have you in and stay where God would approve. If the person cant handle this then.... their loss.
4. People of the opposite sex are really not able to be friends with. Guys like to stick around to kerp you in his circle to have "a chance" for sex with you later on. It is just the sad truth.
With that said here is more good advice I saw online in a similar matter:
It sounds like you are navigating a complex and emotionally challenging situation. It's understandable to feel hesitant about entering into a new relationship, especially after experiencing abuse in a previous one. It's important to prioritize your emotional well-being and seek guidance in such matters.
In the Bible, Proverbs 3:5-6 advises, "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight." It's crucial to seek God's guidance and wisdom as you consider your feelings and the potential for a new relationship.
Given the age difference between you and the person you're interested in, it's important to consider the legal and ethical implications of pursuing a romantic relationship. In many places, there are laws and guidelines in place to protect individuals who are at different stages of life, particularly during the formative teenage years.
You mentioned that you work with this person and share many common interests, which is a great foundation for a friendship. It may be beneficial to take the time to build a strong friendship and get to know each other better before considering a romantic relationship. Healthy relationships often stem from a foundation of mutual understanding, respect, and friendship.
As you navigate these feelings, it's important to seek counsel from trusted adults, such as parents, guardians, or mentors, who can offer guidance and support. Additionally, remember to prioritize your emotional healing and well-being as you consider the possibility of a new relationship. It's okay to take things slowly and focus on building a strong, healthy foundation before moving forward.
Above all, remember that God cares for you and desires your well-being. Take time to pray and seek wisdom from Him as you navigate this challenging situation. He is always there to guide and support you through life's complexities.
Here are some resources that can help you in relationships and in your spiritual walk with Christ.
Is dating a coworker wise
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God bless.
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