Should a young teen date a 17-19 year old?
Is it a sin to date a 17 year old if I am 14?
A: This is a red flag that is typical of older (unsaved) boys behavior.
Is he saved? Have your parents met the person, had a solid discussion with him, and have they approved? I highly doubt any sane parent would allow this. He needs to date people older like his age and above.
There too much of a developmental difference. A 14 year old is 8th grade or barely in high school. A 17 year old is on the brink of adulthood applying for college, working, driving, and potentially moving out. I don’t care if he tell you your mature for your age, no offense but your probably not.
Predators will whisper sweet nothings into your ear and tell you everything you want to hear to get what they want from you. They pick young girls because they’re easier to manipulate, and corner alone.
He likely is/could be grooming you and using emotional minipulation tactics. He’s almost graduated (if not graduating in a few months) and you still have many years of school left. This is NOT OKAY. It screams creep and you should runnnn.
In teenage years date someone your own age. Even in a year gap there’s so much that changes and there will be imbalances developmentally.
There are a lot of ill-intending people who date younger than them, esp this age range.
Red flags to watch for:
1) Obsessive or isolating behaviors. If they refuse to let you have friends, or make you feel bad for taking time to be with friends, it's very predatory, especially with the age gap.
2) Boundaries. Not just regarding sex/drugs/etc, but the little things, too. If they get pushy about small stuff, they likely won't respect your boundaries about big stuff either, and that can lead you into some very, very bad situations. Trust your gut, and do not hesitate to leave a situation that you're not comfortable with. Get a trusted adult involved if needed.
3) Talking trash/Gossip. If they're talking crap about ex-relationships ("my exes are all crazy"), ex-friends, or your friends (see point 1), then, for one thing, they're almost certainly talking crap about you too. Even if you can't see it yet, *something* drove apart those relationships, and odds are that the only thing those relationships had in common was this person.
4. Never be alone with anyone of the opposite sex or anyone you know is living in sexual perversion lifestyles. As with #2 they will try to cut you off from others around you so you have no protection, no chaperone, leaving you vulnerable as prey. Then they normalize it. And nex lt will try to emotionally minipulate you into sex (with the lie; "if you live me you would do it with me.").
Seeing someine in this age range also might be illegal. If so then it is sin since we have to follow the law of the land (as long as it doesn't violate our faith).
It is a no go all around.
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