My kids wont get along. Help.

How do I get my kids to get along? They are 10 (girl) and 13 (boy). They feed off of annoying each other. I ask them over and over to stop but they don’t listen until I yell. They are constantly bickering. I bought a Bible study about loving your siblings from Not Consumed. I thought it would help but they just laugh about it and don’t want to do it. I am at my wits end. 

Is it too late to get them to be nice to each other?

A: We live in a sin stained world with unsaved kids at home right? The only thing that can help is model righteousness, behavior that God wants them to learn (or that restrains them as we train then up) and to share the Gospel. God does the transforming. Until then they will only do moral things when it benefits them, and will do self [sin nature] things the rest of the time.

* if this is a two parent home and your husband is saved, it is good for him as authority in the home to begin a (mandatory) daily family worship hour where they learn the Bible and principles of right living. 

I recommend even maybe also have him give them a good talking to before starting that. 

You can also have their Sunday School teacher discuss this topic with them from a biblical perspective. And if they are not in church nor Sunday School... this needs to be a priority. 

Try to have them memorize verses related, even if you play them (from a playlist or recording) in the car going places. Even better if they are in song format. Idc if it doesnt match a teens music pref. Youre the mom 🙂.

Beyond that you can discipline in varoous ways. Take things from them, ground them, take electronics all away. Etc. And have them repeat the verses by references they know or have them read it out loud 3 times while in the corner.  Your husband should be involved in this too. If nit married - marry a godly man from church and grt to it! 

*If it is extreme, get the Pastor involved. [He is their shepherd and if necessary church to initiate Matt 18 with them too. The point is repentance and restoration not punishment of shame.]

Your job is to train them up. The rest is between God and them. 🙂

I come from a broken home and have a half sibling (who is from the 2 parents in that home) and even though 6 years younger, she has never seen me as a sibling, because of her half brothers who lived with us until kicked out at age 10 [for real reasons]. I am almost 50 now and she still treats me like that and has 0 to do with me [even when our moms family gathers, or when we are at her parents at holidays etc.]. I truly doubt her salvation and yet hope she will get saved and have some sort of right relationship with me. (If not while I am alive, at least if she is saved I will get to have a sin free one with her in eternity.) There is always hope.