Pregnant and bio father off living his life
I need help without being judged. I got out of a 3 year relationship recently and it wasn't a very clean breakup a lot happened. But while being in the relationship I found out I was pregnant. And it's put me in a very bad place emotionally. I have to constantly put on a happy face and tell everyone I'm doing ok but In reality I'm not ok. And I don't know what to do. I see posts about him constantly being happy and having the best time. I think that it's not fair. I'm now stuck having to take care of a child and he gets to go to college. I just need help I don't know what to do I'm tired of constantly balling my eyes out at night. I've tried talking to someone, I've tried praying, meds. Nothing is helping. And with school coming up I don't know how much judgment from everyone I can take. I do have parents supportiveness but its all just overwhelming. 🥺😭
A: He is the father and has responsibility to the child. He needs to provide financial support too. Dont let him wiggle out of that. You just make sure thru courts that he has to pay to provide for the kid. It will be needed. And its a grace if he stays out of state and has no contact irl because you can raise the child in Christ/Christianly.
Don't block him on social media. Dont interact with him there either. Dont even check his page ever (unless its to collect info for future child support/court $ increasage for courts). You will need to be mature in any dealings with him and just leave your hurts and feelings about it all in the past. There's nothing you can do now but what's best for your child.
It is a blessing your parents are lovingly willing to care for and help you. However, do seek assistance from not only a pregnancy crisis service associated with your church, but also know the church will lovingly help you too (from pregnancy to 18! 😊).
While true you both are responsible for the sin of fornication and natural consequences, but your child exists as God created em. God has plans for your life and the child. The important thing to remember is God is in control and you just need to go one day at a time. Cling to God, find your comfort in Him (& via Scripture). Your life isnt ruined. God redeems and restores and blesses. He has plans for your life but things take time, so be patient. And do your best.
My bio father dumped my mom as soon as he found out she was pregnant (and a scheming other woman who already had kids lured him away at the same time). Never got any child support & grew up poor. I never met him. Except 1x later on in life, at his moms (whom I was with every weekend of my life) and that instance he spoke 1 sentence to me. Nothing since and its been 24 yrs. Ill be 50 this year. I grew up in a not great step family with mixed kids and was mistreated. Still am. But my godly grandparents influenced me and I got saved at 12. I love God. He has done good things thru me in this life and am a blessing to others, even to the family who doesnt want me. I have traveled the world in the military, met many people, been useful to God in the churches Ive been at, and have shared the Gospel to untold numbers over my life.
You and your child will be fine. Hard days will be there but anchor yourself in Christ. And go where he leads, he will be with you thru any hard times. 🫂✝️💜
After schooling... find a godly solid believer to marry and be on mission for Christ; in the home first.😊
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