Drinking and partying counseling
Q: Can you have a party life and still be close with God? I'm ashamed to admit that I have become someone I don't like.
I recently turned 21, and started going out to parties with my mother and getting drunk. I've skipped youth group once to drink; I know that's wrong, and I've talked to God about it and apologized again and again. I tell myself that I know this isn't me, that I know better and don't wanna be a part of it anymore, but I just get pulled right back into it. I still go to church every Thursday and Sunday. I still study the word of God almost every day. I sit and talk to God all the time. But I'm wondering if he's mad at me... Idk, am I a bad person for doing this? Am I becoming a lukewarm Christian, am I even a Christian?
A: Believers need to know all our sins are forgiven (past present future) by Jesus when we got saved. After salvation we are progressing in/growing in sanctification. We will not be perfected until we step into eternity. Until then we learn and grow. But if we are sinning & even willfully then God won't hear our prayers and that's why we need to keep short sin accounts. It blocks our fellowship. Conquer as many as we can as they are revealed in our life, so we can mature in the faith and live holy.
Remember, we cannot live hypocritically in rebellion and claim to be saved; salvation isn't a license to sin. We are to kill sin and be conformed to the likeness of Christ (our example) who rightly lived out the purpose of a humans life, lived holy, and lovingly obeyed God.
1 Corinthians 10:12-13 “No temptation has overtaken you” and “He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it”
If your mother/friends aren't saved, you should be studying Scripture with your free time to mature in faith and be able to share the Gospel with them to lead them to Christ. And if they're professing believers whose lives don't reflect holy living then you can livingly use Scripture to counsel them towards holy living. Whether they obey Scripture is between them and God. If they separate from you for following God rightly, then so be it. You - go follow Christ. 😊✨️✝️
Resources for personal study
Conquering the sin of alcohol/drunkeness
Understanding the Gospel better & preaching it to yourself daily.
Growing in holiness
Can salvation be lost
Understanding Sanctification
Spend some time today, this week and beyond going through the above. Bookmark this page so you can come back here. Then the below resource will be a blessing to you as you mature in the Faith.
God bless
Resources for Growing Believers
A: Believers need to know all our sins are forgiven (past present future) by Jesus when we got saved. After salvation we are progressing in/growing in sanctification. We will not be perfected until we step into eternity. Until then we learn and grow. But if we are sinning & even willfully then God won't hear our prayers and that's why we need to keep short sin accounts. It blocks our fellowship. Conquer as many as we can as they are revealed in our life, so we can mature in the faith and live holy.
We can't make up.our own way of living and ignore the parts of the Bible we dont like; that makes us idolators.
Heres a few Questions to think through.
How long ago did you become Christian?
What is your understanding of the Gospel?
How is a person saved?
What keeps a believer saved?
Are you studying Scripture; looking at how it tells us to live a holy life?
Have you done a study on sin and on God's holiness?
If your usage of alcohol isn't self controlled and leads to the sin of drunkenness you should cut it out of your life.
Heres a few Questions to think through.
How long ago did you become Christian?
What is your understanding of the Gospel?
How is a person saved?
What keeps a believer saved?
Are you studying Scripture; looking at how it tells us to live a holy life?
Have you done a study on sin and on God's holiness?
If your usage of alcohol isn't self controlled and leads to the sin of drunkenness you should cut it out of your life.
Do you dress and live holy except when you go partying/clubbing?
Does God approve of that behavior?
Are believers to be set apart and lives lived different from pagans [Unsaved & false converts]?
Does God approve of that behavior?
Are believers to be set apart and lives lived different from pagans [Unsaved & false converts]?
Would God approve of what goes on at those places?
Does clubbing/partying/getting drunk violate God's expectations of a believers life?
Are those behaviors opposite of what is expected of a servant of God?
Does it dishonor God to participate in that lifestyle and behaviors?
Does God teach us not to get drunk and instead be controlled by the Holy Spirit -& grow in the Fruit of self control?
Do those partying behaviors damage a believers witness?
Can you choose to no longer go clubbing/partying/drinking?
Can you tell those you go with that because of your faith beliefs and convictions you won't go to those places anymore?
Are those the only places you can go to with your mom/friends or are myriad of other places an option? Even dinner out, or only going places with her in daylight?
Does clubbing/partying/getting drunk violate God's expectations of a believers life?
Are those behaviors opposite of what is expected of a servant of God?
Does it dishonor God to participate in that lifestyle and behaviors?
Does God teach us not to get drunk and instead be controlled by the Holy Spirit -& grow in the Fruit of self control?
Do those partying behaviors damage a believers witness?
Can you choose to no longer go clubbing/partying/drinking?
Can you tell those you go with that because of your faith beliefs and convictions you won't go to those places anymore?
Are those the only places you can go to with your mom/friends or are myriad of other places an option? Even dinner out, or only going places with her in daylight?
Are those the kind of friends God warned not to be unequally yoked with?
Should believers be avoiding those kinds of activities even if others participate in them?
Can you grow in faith and with God's lead & your obedience to him -conquer sin and choose the right way?
Can a believer resist temptation, flee from what's sinful, and conquer sins?
Are we to live in the world but not be of it?
Do you live God, if so you will over Him.
How is partying and drinking "picking up your cross and following Christ"?
If you strayed from righteousness, isn't God convicting you to like a shepherd lead you back to the godly path?
Scripture tells us to examine ourselves to see if we are saved, and if we are saved we are to conquer sin & grow in holiness and the faith.
The below are some resources to help you. Of course it begins with saying no that you won't go and stand firm in your conviction. You can even text to those you were partying with that "I am writing to share something that's on my heart. I have been convicted by God about clubbing and getting drunk, so because of my faith beliefs and convictions I won't be going to those places anymore, and have stopped drinking. I don't want to do things that are sinful & have become a sin in my life. So, I am purposely pursuing a holy life going forward. This doesn't mean we can't go have a lunch or cut our relationship off, it just means I am going to live differently. I expect you to respect and honor the decision I've made, and hold me accountable. I won't go where temptations to drink will be present. And I ask that [out of love] when we do eat or gather for a meal that you abstain from alcohol so I don't fall into sin. Thank you". It might be good to send it out around the time they typically go to bed, so they can read it and wake up knowing this is your firm conviction going forward. Then say NO if they bring it up again.
Can you grow in faith and with God's lead & your obedience to him -conquer sin and choose the right way?
Can a believer resist temptation, flee from what's sinful, and conquer sins?
Are we to live in the world but not be of it?
Do you live God, if so you will over Him.
How is partying and drinking "picking up your cross and following Christ"?
If you strayed from righteousness, isn't God convicting you to like a shepherd lead you back to the godly path?
Scripture tells us to examine ourselves to see if we are saved, and if we are saved we are to conquer sin & grow in holiness and the faith.
The below are some resources to help you. Of course it begins with saying no that you won't go and stand firm in your conviction. You can even text to those you were partying with that "I am writing to share something that's on my heart. I have been convicted by God about clubbing and getting drunk, so because of my faith beliefs and convictions I won't be going to those places anymore, and have stopped drinking. I don't want to do things that are sinful & have become a sin in my life. So, I am purposely pursuing a holy life going forward. This doesn't mean we can't go have a lunch or cut our relationship off, it just means I am going to live differently. I expect you to respect and honor the decision I've made, and hold me accountable. I won't go where temptations to drink will be present. And I ask that [out of love] when we do eat or gather for a meal that you abstain from alcohol so I don't fall into sin. Thank you". It might be good to send it out around the time they typically go to bed, so they can read it and wake up knowing this is your firm conviction going forward. Then say NO if they bring it up again.
Remember, we cannot live hypocritically in rebellion and claim to be saved; salvation isn't a license to sin. We are to kill sin and be conformed to the likeness of Christ (our example) who rightly lived out the purpose of a humans life, lived holy, and lovingly obeyed God.
1 Corinthians 10:12-13 “No temptation has overtaken you” and “He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it”
If your mother/friends aren't saved, you should be studying Scripture with your free time to mature in faith and be able to share the Gospel with them to lead them to Christ. And if they're professing believers whose lives don't reflect holy living then you can livingly use Scripture to counsel them towards holy living. Whether they obey Scripture is between them and God. If they separate from you for following God rightly, then so be it. You - go follow Christ. 😊✨️✝️
Resources for personal study
*Return to this page to go through each of the below. Each link below has inner links, so do return to this page, to complete the study.
Conquering the sin of alcohol/drunkeness
Understanding the Gospel better & preaching it to yourself daily.
Growing in holiness
Can salvation be lost
Understanding Sanctification
Spend some time today, this week and beyond going through the above. Bookmark this page so you can come back here. Then the below resource will be a blessing to you as you mature in the Faith.
God bless
Resources for Growing Believers
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