Biblically handling the loss of a loved one
Q: My daughter passed away in 2021 of natural causes, but I’m just so angry, sad, confused, and I feel like I’m just existing. I have a teenager and am pregnant due beginning of year with another girl….
A: You didn't mention your husband. If not married, I wanted to (as a believer is to) address this [before getting into the helpful reply below that will help you]. If you are living in sin, God will not bless you. He won't hear your prayers either. You need to get your life on the straight and narrow and stop sexual sin. You need to examine yourself to see if you are even saved. Believers are to live holy and hate and flee and not even go the direction of sin. Stop putting yourself in situations where you are alone with a man to have sex or be preyed on to coherse you into fornication. If your living with a guy, move out. Deal with the consequences of your sin as a person taking accountability and do what is right. Repent to God and live holy. Then go find a saved, godly, mature in the Faith man to marry. With that out of the way...
I would like to lovingly encourage you to help you through this hard time. 🥰 🫂✨️
Have you met with your Pastor and his wife for some grief counseling? They should be the first place you go. Even if there's no official grief helps at the church, the Pastor is there to shepherd the believers, and give holy living guidance.
I would also further highly recommend professional biblical counseling. They can help you in all these matters. Schedule an appt today, with both of them.
In addition I will share these as a bit more help, you will benefit by going through them. 🫂✨️
Understanding Suffering & Fallen world
Grief Counseling comforts to bless you
Depression helps
Avoid drinking and drugs(!), they are of no help & only takes you down the Devils path - you want to stay far away from it. Go to God in prayer instead, and counseling, and be reading Scripture daily. Ask your pastor where you can read for comfort and guidance, as well as the verses in the grief counseling to encourage you.
Conquering anger and wrong emotions
When it comes to the loss of your daughter, you need to look at this with a biblical mindset and hold to God's Promises, that way you can break free of where your mind is and can be in peace about it. You have to live on and your other children need you. You need to be a good example to them for how to live in the world as a believer when tragedy hits. I do believe all these resources will help realign you to biblical thinking and help you move onward. The good thing is the ones in Heaven are ones we will reunite with once thr Lord returns. So live well here, be focused on God, your purpose, and being a parent/spiritial guide, and light, for your family still here. They need you and God still has a plan for you with them, and you need to be going that direction. Gid has given you charge to steward his humans he's put in your care that you birthed. Train them up in the Lord and faith and send them into the world, to live out their purpose God has for them. Keep your eyes on Jesus. He is with you even as an empty nester later on. Even if you are alone, you aren't since the Trinity is with you.
Note we are human and have to go through various things in life. But even Jesus wept when someone He loved died. He knew what happened next, He knew Lazarus was going to be fine in a way nome of us can truly comprehend, but still, He wept. It's OK to put it at His feet. To say "Jesus, I don't know how to trust you with this. Help me to be able to lean on You."
Remember, The Lord is near all who call out to him, all who call out to him in truth…He fulfills the desires of those who fear him; he hears their cry for help and saves them
Psalm 145:18-19
Also, The Bible tells us that when Elijah was overwhelmed, the Angel of the Lord told him to rest and eat.
1 Kings 19:5-8 describes the moment when an angel tells Elijah to eat and rest:
Verse 5: “Elijah falls asleep under a tree
Verse 6: An angel touches Elijah and tells him to get up and eat
Verse 7: Elijah sees a loaf of bread and a jar of water by his head
Verse 8: Elijah eats and drinks, and then falls back asleep”.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8.
"To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:"
• Isaiah 40:31
But they who wait on the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. 1
I hope this helps, God bless
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My church doesnt has any grief resources and I’m just stuck. My family is absolutely not supportive (and haven’t been my entire life.) I feel like I’m on my last piece of strength. I just constantly replay that day in my head and I try to convince myself she is okay in heaven with God, but my heart hurts so bad. Some days I feel as if I’m dying of actual heartbreak. Idk what to do. And I’ve been In therapy, I have been drunk & high, but I am completely sober and have been (even before getting pregnant), I just don’t know what else to do.
A: You didn't mention your husband. If not married, I wanted to (as a believer is to) address this [before getting into the helpful reply below that will help you]. If you are living in sin, God will not bless you. He won't hear your prayers either. You need to get your life on the straight and narrow and stop sexual sin. You need to examine yourself to see if you are even saved. Believers are to live holy and hate and flee and not even go the direction of sin. Stop putting yourself in situations where you are alone with a man to have sex or be preyed on to coherse you into fornication. If your living with a guy, move out. Deal with the consequences of your sin as a person taking accountability and do what is right. Repent to God and live holy. Then go find a saved, godly, mature in the Faith man to marry. With that out of the way...
I would like to lovingly encourage you to help you through this hard time. 🥰 🫂✨️
Have you met with your Pastor and his wife for some grief counseling? They should be the first place you go. Even if there's no official grief helps at the church, the Pastor is there to shepherd the believers, and give holy living guidance.
I would also further highly recommend professional biblical counseling. They can help you in all these matters. Schedule an appt today, with both of them.
In addition I will share these as a bit more help, you will benefit by going through them. 🫂✨️
Understanding Suffering & Fallen world
Grief Counseling comforts to bless you
Depression helps
Avoid drinking and drugs(!), they are of no help & only takes you down the Devils path - you want to stay far away from it. Go to God in prayer instead, and counseling, and be reading Scripture daily. Ask your pastor where you can read for comfort and guidance, as well as the verses in the grief counseling to encourage you.
Conquering anger and wrong emotions
When it comes to the loss of your daughter, you need to look at this with a biblical mindset and hold to God's Promises, that way you can break free of where your mind is and can be in peace about it. You have to live on and your other children need you. You need to be a good example to them for how to live in the world as a believer when tragedy hits. I do believe all these resources will help realign you to biblical thinking and help you move onward. The good thing is the ones in Heaven are ones we will reunite with once thr Lord returns. So live well here, be focused on God, your purpose, and being a parent/spiritial guide, and light, for your family still here. They need you and God still has a plan for you with them, and you need to be going that direction. Gid has given you charge to steward his humans he's put in your care that you birthed. Train them up in the Lord and faith and send them into the world, to live out their purpose God has for them. Keep your eyes on Jesus. He is with you even as an empty nester later on. Even if you are alone, you aren't since the Trinity is with you.
Note we are human and have to go through various things in life. But even Jesus wept when someone He loved died. He knew what happened next, He knew Lazarus was going to be fine in a way nome of us can truly comprehend, but still, He wept. It's OK to put it at His feet. To say "Jesus, I don't know how to trust you with this. Help me to be able to lean on You."
Remember, The Lord is near all who call out to him, all who call out to him in truth…He fulfills the desires of those who fear him; he hears their cry for help and saves them
Psalm 145:18-19
Also, The Bible tells us that when Elijah was overwhelmed, the Angel of the Lord told him to rest and eat.
1 Kings 19:5-8 describes the moment when an angel tells Elijah to eat and rest:
Verse 5: “Elijah falls asleep under a tree
Verse 6: An angel touches Elijah and tells him to get up and eat
Verse 7: Elijah sees a loaf of bread and a jar of water by his head
Verse 8: Elijah eats and drinks, and then falls back asleep”.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8.
"To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:"
• Isaiah 40:31
But they who wait on the LORD shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint. 1
I hope this helps, God bless
Related
Helps for Growing in the Faith
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