Should we change churches if...

Feel need to move church for kids & better opportunities

Q: How do you know if it’s time to move to other church? I’m on the position feeling like I need to move on to another church. But I’m stuck on the situation where I feel like they’re my family and I owe them a lot because my Pastor always there for me and my family through ups and downs. But having my own kids, and Sunday school is lacking, and many more things, I feel like leaving. I don’t know what to do aside from praying and asking God. I feel bad leaving my church family but i also love my family especially my kids who need to be taught and meet other kids at their age group. Any advice? Thank you.


A: Most churches have 75 members and few kids. Church is not a place for whats happening in many of them today (fun games& activities) but to learn and grow in holiness, to worship God, and serve God as we serve the brethren there. 

If theyre teaching biblical Essentials and you agree with their secondary teachings, and there's no problems with leadership, then there's no need to leave. 

Your kids should be being taught and trained up in the Lord at home. So they understand the local church too and why we go. A key reason kids leave Church at 18 is because they're a wrong understanding of church, God and the Gospel. The church today fails them, as do their Christian parents. 
 
I am sure God has you at that church to grow there, serve there and grow in sanctification through this situation. 

Talk to your pastor in a counseling session, and also his wife. See if they can guide you on this. 

What has your husband said or discussed with you about it? Go the way he says if he is born again; the spiritual leader over your family. 

You can help your kids find children friends from godly homes from among your church and other bible focused protestant churches in your area to be buddies with at home. Remember most kids change friends many times in the course of their k-12 life, and will leave most all of them behind finding new ones at college or at the church they go to wherever they move to live at. 

What ages are they? Perhaps wherever the ones headed to college are going, you could move there and find a larger church to go to at that time. 

I hope some of these can help you. 

*Has link to church directory via bottom link, if you need one. See pg 2. 



God bless

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