Gambled against husbands wishes and lost money in crypto, afraid to confess.
Q: I did something wrong. I took $1200 our$ and lost it doing crypto. ln sin and sneakily I'm trying to earn the money back "before it’s noticed". I know I’m way over my head and in the wrong for doing it.
I know I should go ahead and confess to my husband. He told me "no on the crypto" but I went ahead and did it anyways. I’ve been asking God for forgiveness. I’m scared to tell my husband this because I want to be trusted with money and I disrespected his leadership. I feel so bad and I’m unable to sleep. We are trying to get into a better financial situation and I ruined that for us.
A: Before the advice, I'll give a warning by story. It's never a win it and is a slippery slope into idolatry/love of money. Trust God.
People do things in sin that they want to and think it will go their way and never be caught. Doing wrong things will never recieve God's blessing.
My aunt worked at a phone company since 18, worked loads of jobs and worked hervway up into some good jobs like paralegal and project manager (at the end). She planned to retire 12 years ago. About 2 yrs before then, found out her (slimy) husband had taken out all her retirement money and lost it all in day trading. He always had a wanted to be rich mentality. He also at some point was seeing a woman who was rich, with intent to leave my aunt for her. Richie rich just wanted a play thing. Auntie found her undies in the bedroom & confronted him. In their home! [About 8 yrs b4 the retirement theft]. Imagine working 30 years and being so tired & ready to retire only to find your doomed to work for another many years, while he gets to enjoy his retirement (& still has his pension).
tWhat happened absolutely devistated her. I was shocked to hear any state law "allowed" such a thing. Hearing her story....I would never tell my husband about any pension I had avail if I was in that situation. Jobs aren't stable in CA, were broke and theres no pension or 401k for us. So it won't happen, but still, I would never divulge any money coming in returement years. Gotta Protect yourself from folk losing their minds like this. Doing you dirty over money theft or gambling is always done behind the back, until exposed. The Damage is already done...and has long lasting consequences that affect both of you, maybe even the kids too.
😭She had to work very stressful jobs for another 8 years, worked nonstop, and moved to consult at another company (after "retirement" from the orig job) working a few years more, and...😂 she refused to entertain any of his idea of divorce; his punishment(?). Now he's an old geezer with no prospects so he has no choice. She took him back to her small home town at retirement. And her brother won't put up with nonsense if he evwn thinks of trying something. They live nearby. I feel so bad for her. Pretty sure she's in charge of and only one with access to the money now.
I never trusted him. My red flag radar is hardly ever wrong. They married when I was in 7th grade. They never went to church, which was odd, even when I lived with them after HS for 6 months. Pretty sure she had me move out cuz he must've been eyeballing me. Otherwise I'dve been there a couple years getting settled into adulthood with her in guardianship help. It really would've helped me start out well in life. She helped me in advance find a place decently nearby enough and with roommates, so there was no chance he would try to slink over. If he tried I would've alerted her immediately. But I doubt he would try that within family, and esp since I had no money. 😆🙃. [I was poor could barely afford the rent and food at that roomate place, and ended up in the military].
He rarely ever had any convos with any family at holiday gatherings, just basic minimum. Very odd. He was very weird. Itvisnt pleasant seeing him or engaging in any convos. But it was always like that. She left a physical abuser huband only to find herself with a financial abuser. At least she lived long enough to enjoy retirement years (and have money to stay retired without having to work anymore).
Never do anything without your husbands approval. You need to submit to him. He's the leader and responsible for all those kinds of headship things. He's trying to manage finances to keep you both afloat. And if Christian, he's trying to be a good steward of the money God gave him.
Go sell stuff YOU have worth that money, give it to him in repentance and never do it again.
Avoid gambling and get rich schemes. They never work and are not blessed by God. And lead to destruction and poverty.
If he finds an investment firm that is reputable and invests (a little of what is posdible) then it's a long term plan for yalls retirement years. Leave it alone and let him handle it. Forget it exists. Just ensure both your names are on it, or is in a family trust, in case something happens to him.
Glad he forgave you when you came clean. Obey him in loving submission going forward.
God bless
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