Is Porn a valid reason to Divorce?
Q:Biblically speaking is it ok to divorce a porn addict? They haven’t physically cheated but I’m devastated he wont let it go.
A: If he is claiming to be saved or is a member at a church, get the men's group leader involved, to reach out and try to disciple him. Men need men. And this is a sin that enslaves.
If he is at least open to talking with them for advice men then do that before asking fir him to go to professional counseling.
Yes, it is sin, yes it is adultery of the heart & mind, (and can even lead to ED), but as a believing spouse we are to be patient & forgive. In marriage we are to pursue repentance, correction, reconcilliation, & restoration, just as God did with us. The marriage is a shadow of the Gospel, and we arent to break that covenant, just as God doesn't with our salvation. He won't divorce us from Christ. Love pursues at all costs to reconcile, and goes to the furthest mile. Even while being treated unjustly.
Seek a biblical marriage counselor to help you, if he is not saved and open to correction/conquering it. There are resources below to help minister to him but it's best if he agrees to get help [through a biblical marriage counselor]. Both going and varied things getting addressed and help will be a right choice, so you can put it behind you and move forward together in Christ.
We as believers are called to do all we can, as long as we can, to the very end after all possibilities before divorce is considered. Idk if you married him while both unsaved, or in rebellion to God's command not to be unequally yoked, but this is a situation God will sanctify you in as you go through it, so let him prune, mold and shape you into a more matured believer by it. Wear thr Armor of God and get good biblical counseling so you have a game plan.
It is sin and it is an addiction. Don't leave your husband alone in the battlefield as a deserter, get in that fox hole and fight the good fight.
If he isn't saved, try to make that Gospel conversation your first line of defense. Until he's born again & has the new nature, he won't have righteous desires nor love God and want to conquer sins. He may stop it for a while but will always be drawn back to it as it is a particular sin of choice he's latched onto, just as the lgbt folk do with their sexual sin. Without Christ there will be no victory over it.
I hope these can help as you minister to him.
God bless
Ps. You can call biblical counseling as "professional counseling" or "marriage counseling", he doesnt need to know it's Christian based. But, the cousenor will probe to see if he's saved, and try to address that, to lead him to Christ. But it would be good for you to try to lightly have the convo too (as suggested above).
Verses to meditate on:
Proverbs 13:20: "Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm."
Ecclesiastes 7:12: "For wisdom is a defense
Matthew 10:16 "Behold, I send you out as sheep in the midst of wolves. Therefore be wise as serpents and harmless as doves."
Spouse Verses:
Colossians 2:6-8 reminds us:
"Therefore as you have received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in Him, having been firmly rooted and now being built up in Him and established in your faith, just as you were instructed, and overflowing with gratitude.See to it that no one takes you captive through philosophy and empty deception, according to the tradition of men, according to the elementary principles of the world, rather than according to Christ."
And these
Titus 2:4-5
4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children,
5 to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
Proverbs 18:22
22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing
And obtains favor from the Lord.
Proverbs 31:10-12
10 An excellent wife, who can find?
For her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.
Titus 2:4-5
4 ... urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
1 Peter 3:3-4
3 Your adornment must not be merely external... but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.
Proverbs 12:4
4 An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones.
Proverbs 18:22
22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing
And obtains favor from the Lord.
These verses collectively emphasize the value, trustworthiness, and moral character of a godly wife, highlighting her role in supporting and enriching her husband's life.
1 Corinthians 7:12-14
12 ... if any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his believing wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
1 Peter 3:1-2
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.
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