Will an "angry" father affect his daughter?

Q: Will having an “angry” father (not everyday but it’s unpredictable, sometimes every few weeks or longer periods sometimes shorter) affect my daughter? Im so scared if that. It’s mostly angry “at the world” not really anything we are doing inside the house or us but he basically word vomits and starts just lumping everything in together or gets easy frustrated, short tempered, if small things go wrong, or if hes already stressed and not speaking kind at all. He doesn’t yell at her but I know it feels scary for her not understand when and why. He has yelled at me. It’s scary for me too. I’m doing my best to let her know it’s never her fault and we need to be acting the way God has told us to act from the Bible but wondering what else I can do so this doesn’t effect her. I’m praying he will change and he hasn’t always been this bad, but now it’s been going on about 5-6 years, with ebbs and flows she’s 7. Hes been behaving this way basically her whole life.


A: Is he a professing believer? If so, you need to both go get counsel from your rlders/pastoral counseling & he needs to go to biblical counseling. And have the godly men at church (perhaps via mens group, and church leaders being there too, for) holding him accountable, discipling him and guiding him to holiness. If hes not saved, he might not listen so you'll have to teach right mindset truths to her from a Christian perspective. So she can understand the issue, help not let it affect her, and pray for his salvation.

But...Yes cuz it will affect her in many ways, as it might make her a people pleaser (out of fears), and she might sadly end up with someone just like him (and live extra cateringly, instead of being herself).

Usually those issues in men are rooted in bitterness and anger; things they never dealt with from their childhood or in young adulthood. And theyre oblivious [or not caring] to what harm theyre doing to their children, and dpouse. These can help if he's open to changing.

See the Avoiding section.

Overcoming Stress

Consider also Counseling for him. 

Abuse advice sermon

Healing our Hurts


God bless


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