Q: Desires divorce
Q: Desire to divorce, adultery and tons of other problems. I'm tired and exhausted. I want out.
A: He is an unbeliever. Why are you expecting someone not in the Kingdom to have kingdom behavior? He isnt regenerated; doesnt have the new nature in Christ. This is one big error young women make when dating. They see anyone as dating material, instead of looking only at the limited number of available godly suitors she is to pursue who meet biblical qualifications as the first step (before even dating). And then get all upset that he isnt living up to Christian standards. A believers behavior is not in his nature. He is spiritually dead. You have to be the living example of Christ in the home, radiating love; the love of God, towards him.
The Believer's stays, and pursues her husband in love, and for Christ.
Sinners behave as their nature. If unsaved, they only sin. If saved they pursue holiness and conquer sin.
You cant blame him for living out his nature, but you can see your errir in pursuing someone who isnt a believer, and make changes pursuant to that, to draw him to Christ.
These resources can help you navigate this issue, think from a biblical mindset, and addresses the topic of divorce, so you can make infirmed and wise decisions going forward.
Verses to remember:
1 Corinthians 7:12-14
12 ... if any brother has an unbelieving wife, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his believing wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.
1 Peter 3:1-2
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.
Titus 2:4-5
4 ... urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.
We love because He first loved us.
1 John 4:19
1 John 4:8: "Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love."
John 13:34-35: "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples if you love one another."
1 John 4:20: "Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.
God bless
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