Neglectful husband

Q: Neglectful Husband

Husband ignores me whenever I bring up divorce. I’m emotionally and mentally neglected in many ways and for various of reasons feel I have grounds of divorce. 

He has changed a lot of things, but the main things I genuinely am I need of he doesn’t really fix: neglect. 

Is there a reason why I would get stone walled when I ask about divorce? I genuinely feel like he doesn’t love me and he is dragging me along. I need advice.



A: At this point I will highly recommend tou meet with a biblical counselor. First for yourself, and then together. You could just call it "marriage counseling" when you discuss it with him, as if he knows its faith related he will likely oppose it. And it is fine to have a male counselor once you go as couples, so he wont feel ganged up on by women and so the counselor deals with him properly man to man, in a biblical way. 

This should be your first step and priority instead if asking for or considering divorce. When you go they'll help you understand the issues of sin, neglect, how unsaved spouse is, how you can navigate it, communicate, give ideas to unite, and a game plan for you so you can live day to day with an unsaved neglectful husband. Some men think theyre doing a great job cuz they provide financially....and are clueless about women's needs. 


And here are some more helps to bless and help you: 

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Keep working on yourself, to mature in the Faith, into holy living, and imitating Christ as you follow Him. And obey God to remain married and loving godly before him. 

Pray God saves your husband. When it happens (now or at 80) you can both live in peace & love, and for Christ. Until then, persevere, let God use this time to grow you in sanctification, while shining forth Christ. 

God bless

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