Help re emotionally and mentally abusive situation
Q: How to move out of an emotionally and mentally abusive situation with no life guidance, parents or money
A: It depends if your married, living in sin with a significant other or just in a relationship with that person. And what the issues are.
If in a relationship, it sounds unequally yoked, that the person who is sinning against you is unsaved. If that's the case, it is expected since they are not born again, so God hasn't transformed them, which means they can only live out the sin nature, which is sinning. They cant do anything but that, (Read Genesis 6:5, Ecclesiastes 9:3 , Isaiah 53:6, Romans 8:7–8, Galatians 5:19-21, Titus 3:3, Ephesians 2:3, Romans 5:12, Psalm 14:3, Romans 7:18, Psalm 51:5, Jeremiah 17:9, Galatians 5:17, John 3:19–20). So you cant have any other expectation. Which is why we who are in Christ, are to love others as God loved us [we were enemies of God, yet he went to extreme lengths and cost for us]. We are likewise to show love, patience, grace, mercy, forgiveness etc living out that heart/mindset of love towards those who sin against us. It causes us to grow and it radiates Christ to them by which God can use to draw/lead them to Christ, (which if it results in salvation, means they'll be transformed too).
On your issue, its best to first consult Scripture, seeing what God says on these topics (including in principle), then meet with your pastor for counseling. Implement the plan, and if more counsel is needed speak with a prof biblical counselor. Then follow that game plan, including any areas you need to work on in sanctification as a believer conforming to the image of Christ, to become more like Him.
I hope these also can help.
On Suffering:
Handling Trauma/suffering
(*this includes conflict resolution helps too).
If it is marriage related, focus on the Family offers free counseling. But here's a broad directory for biblical counselors who can help.
If you are married unequally yoked (or dating and need to exit that relationship) this can help
If it is a friendship, and theyre unsaved, then you have to live godly before them, (and lessen your time with them to be around believers more, & make new godly friends at your church). If the friend is saved, then you need to likewise go to Scripture & prayer, to seek God's will for your behavior, responses (noted above) and treat them well, if necessary seek a leader's counsel or/& pastoral counsel at church. If theyre at church then follow Matt 18 after that, as the church's goal is to lovingly help believers live holy lives.
On the topic of growth through sanctification/sanctification growth, there's free other self counseling here, that can also help. And on Understanding Believers & sin.
These should guide and help you well.
God bless
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