Divorce, Remarriage Salvation, Hell?

Q: i need help understanding a hard topic. 

Divorce … 

i know adultery is one reason. 

if one were to get divorce and remarry then it’s a sin…. so every person who’s got a divorce and remarried is going to hell if they weren’t cheated on before?

 i know there is only a narrow path to heaven.. is this where Gods grace comes in? i’m just so confused. 

i don’t want to stay in a unhealthy marriage if it’s going to kill my soul. but i don’t want to hurt God .  

people are to stay in a marriage no matter how horrible?? (not physical abuse or cheating)  

if one person is trying to live for God and you or spouse doesn’t have that same drive we just have to deal with it?? 

A: God uses those situations to conform us to the image of Christ, to be Christlike, and grow in holiness. Its about your sanctification and being a godly witness in the home (which radiates to your extended family & community). Marriage isnt about you. Its about submitting to God and putting your husband first. Joy= Jesus, Others, You.

It is probable you need to do a lot of work in yourself, conquer sins, and submit (in all areas outside Faith matters if hes not saved). Christian wives are to love. Love is sacrificial and humble, it is servantly.

On top of that if he is saved he will live you as Christ loves the Church, pursue that (though flawed) as he pursues holy living. If hes not saved and you married him as a believer in rebellion to God's command (and any pastoral warnings and counsel) then youre simply reaping the Fruit of your choice. Consequences follow. You cant escape it. God will grow you there in that covenant marriage you made before God for life. Sometimes theres hard lessons and stumbling blocks and detours but it draws you closer to God and to obedience. It grows you in the Fruit of the Spirit.

If hes not saved you need to truly understand unsaved folk are trapped in and can only work within the confines of their sin nature. You cant expect them to behave, think or live as those transformed by God do. False converts included. Religious idolators and those in false churches included. YOU have to be that light in the hime, and are called to be a minister of truth and the Gospel there. Life sucks cuz were in a fallen world, but actually no cuz if we live in the will if God then life circumstsnces dont matter, as God will work it out, lead and teach us along the way, and cause us to grow closer to Him and to mature in the Faith. It is why we dont get yanked out of this world at salvation. He has work for us here to do, and half of it is on ourselves.

Divorce isnt an option. If you are saved, profess Christ... you must remain in the bounds of that marriage and pursue holiness. You will destroy your life (again) if you divorce him. 

These can help as you continue where you are. 

Unequally Yoked Resources for living godly before your husband 

*includes why divorce isnt the answer

Biblical Counselor of you need one for yourself (and/or you both for marriage counseling) 

I will say that you're confusing the saved w unsaved, and salvation w rebellion. Can someone unrealizingly divorce die to ignorance (and not having pastoral counseling to guide) be saved, divorce, remarry in sin ? Yes it happens. If shes repented & committed to pursuing that marriage to deaths and, at any cost to live godly before him even if she messed up again marrying a unbeliever or he apostasizes. If shes saved nothing can undo that salvation. Can God discipline or take her to Heaven, yes. Will he more likely be gracious to his immature unknowing daughter in Christ and help her grow, while kerping her in that new marriage - yes. Jesus paid for all your sins. If you remarried ignorantly, there will be grace given. 

In your situation... no. It would be willful rebellious in purposeful sin to both divorce and remarry, and he might very well discipline you. Because youre fully aware now. Or it would show you were never actually saved. Which is scarier cuz you might die in your sins without Christ as Savior. If you love God you wouldn't willfully plot and plan to sin. Jesus died because of your sins. Trampling in his blood...shows you dont understand all of that at all, nor who God is, and what a transformed life looks like. 

I would just guide you to a biblical counselor so you can fully grasp this and in light of your situation, guide you so you live in holiness -despite your situation. There's hope (and peace) to be found when you're focused on God and not life's circumstances.