CounselingChristians

Q: Prayer request and advice for help with dealing with an extremely messy spouse; to the point it is affecting my mental health. I understand “just leave it” on an issue like this is silly when he is an amazing husband and Father, it’s just THIS issue we need to work through. I have been praying for years for help and things never seem to change no matter how much i pray or try.   I will start by saying when we met and fell in love as teenagers I knew he was a messy person and accepted it because it only affected his space and we had no children so it was very easy for me to keep our apartment clean. I was raised in a home where we kept things tidy, he was not; to the point where I had to teach him basic hygeine skills like how to wipe himself and brush his teeth correctly when we met as teens.  Almost 6 years, we have 2 children, 3 pets and a large home. We do not have a traditional dynamic; I actually provide the majority of the household income working 70+ hours from ...

Q: My current boyfriend & I have been dating for 7 months now, but we’re having a really big issue at the moment. I’m just in need of some godly advice. For reference, I’m a 20-year-old female, and my boyfriend is 27. And we are both strong christians. We went out on our first date and afterward came back to my house to talk and get to know each other better. From the beginning, I knew I was dating to marry, and I was very open with him about my past. [I told him about all my previous relationships — including my longest one, which was a homosexual relationship — and a few situationships I had in college with guys.]. I felt extremely ashamed of my past, but I wanted him to know everything up front so he could decide if he wanted to move forward with me. That same night, I asked him about a rumor I had heard a while ago regarding a relationship he supposedly had with another girl. He denied it, saying they were nothing more than coworkers and that she was just telling people they we...

Q: Please pray for my marriage. I'm growing weary. When he's happy: sweet, super loving, caring, supportive, overly complimentary, spoils me, calls me the best mom/wide, thanks me for everything i do at home, basically the ideal husband. When he's mad: rude, mean, looks at me like he hates me, calls me names, points out all my issues/flaws, uses things I have shared with him against me including traumas, threatens to leave/divorce, yells at me and doesn't care who hears or if the kids are sleeping, says he doesn't care, says being a mom is not hard work and it's not his fault I don't know how to relax or I don't rest as a sahm. He says I should stick through it because i have 3 kids now and my life will go down hill and no one will want me if i divorce him, i wont find anyone like him. He gaslights me, calls me crazy, does things that bother me to upset me since he's mad, won't sleep in the bed with me, won't listen, won't understand. And...

Q: What does the bible say... can you be single mothers by choice? I've tried to look up scripture for it but can't find none. I know I'm still young (I'm 22) and there's still time for me to find a husband but honestly I don't see it in the cards for me. All the men at my church are already married or way older than me. And for the past two years since I've been at the church no one new has stayed. And I'm scared to go on dating websites because you never know these days what men will do. I know I should pray about it, I really want to be a mother one day but I just don't know how I would be able to get a husband without online dating. I was thinking maybe I could be a single mother by choice, but i don't want my kids to not have a father, because kids need a father figure in their life and all the men in my family are bad examples of what fathers/husbands should be. The last time I prayed for a husband a guy did find me on the internet. And we ...

IVF is actually murder. So we dont participate in that. IVF is the modern day practice of eugenics. [Babies] Eggs that are fertilized  [alive] and deemed not perfect are destroyed 9 out of 10 x, sometimes some are frozen indetinitely. There are many other, safer ways to try for a child. alliebethstucky has a few Podcast episodes that delve deep into the truths of IVF and the below videos, discussions and information will give clarity in this important matter.  Christians are not to be murderers. But  snowflake ivf rescues babies already created, so if married you can go that route. "Adoption" began with Christian married people, in early Christian times, who would run out and get the baby girls tossed in the dump and fire dumps by the pagan men who didn't want them. Adoption is fine but only if married, as kids need a Father and a mother.  You Must know this about IVF Is an embryo a baby Playlist of a few videos discussing IVF  What you might not know about IVF...

Want divorce. Professing husband w continually affairs asks forgiveness but never changes. Q: I am feeling weary and so disheartened. My husband has repeatedly been unfaithful, despite his faith and repeated requests for forgiveness. I have forgiven him multiple times, but I am at my limit. Would a divorce be acceptable in God's eyes? A: No divorce isn't permitted. We are to continually firgive and be Christlike, especially to a spouse who processes Christ.  He needs the discipleship, counseling and call to repentance and killing that sin which the church elders and godly men need to actively be in his life helping him achieve, lest hes found as a false concert and needs true salvation.  Has any church discipline been instituted yet? Has he had pastor counsel? Has he gone also to a biblical counselor?  Are the men from the mens group rallied around him to hold him accountable, call him to repentance, and guide him in holy living as a husband and professing believer? Thes...

Q: I’ve noticed online, that a lot of women encouraging women to stay in abusive or toxic relationships . Encouraging to pray for their spouse to change. I’m still learning in my walk with God. But when I look at what God’s word says about love - I always believe God would want the best for his daughters . Why should we settle and wait for someone to change ? I also do believe in God’s grace and showing grace toward others. I’ve been confused because I’m currently in a situation where I’m engaged but I experienced a few situations of physical and verbal abuse, and decided I want to end the relationship. But then I’ve being told by some people to pray for him for him to change or that maybe I’m meant to save him. But then I think why would God want me to put up with anger and aggression. I had expressed multiple times how it was making me feel but he never changed and once I finally decided to end things for good, he says he will change and do better. I’m already emotionally detached an...