CounselingChristians

Q: We've been together for a year, but we argue and there's problems. I want things to be how they were in the beginning. What to do?? A: Well first of all we need to look at what Scripture says about relationships. There were no couple relationships outside of marriage. In Bible times pursuing someone meant first your s/o was vetted to be a mature believer, and then engagement meant you were to be married, but not actually married. It was as legal as marriage and a covenant promise, not completed or finalized till you wed. No man would enter into a agreement or pursue considewe'd. marraige until he could provide for a family and that included having a home to live in. The betrothed man would spend that engaged year preparing the final things to be in place to begin a married life and have a family. The bride would live at home after engagement, and remain pure. They were never alone together. She waited until he called for her and they married. When he called her it was fo...

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Q: I’ve always had faith but I haven’t been on the path like I should be. I dont go you church and I dont pray.  I am worried that God doesn’t come into my life. I want to really try to live right.  Also, I struggle with agoraphobia and I’ve been praying for help but it hasn’t seemed to help. I just want the relationship that you guys have. And be able to do things. A: Avoiding Bible and prayer is 1. What the unsaved do even if they profess but live as idolators, 2. what leads to  problems in a believers life; robs their joy, makes them anxious and full of worry & fears. Not reading the Bible, not praying and not going to church are not behaviors of a believer. It is possible you obeyed the Gospel and have been saved but are a weak believer. You need to examine yourself to find out, and go from there.  Let's look at this by Illustration of a believer: You have a fiance whom you love and you delight in writing letters to communicate your thoughts, feelings and des...

Q: Things went wrong w bf & he left me. We have kids. I am distraught. [Redacted info]. A: God is in the business of restoration. Both in salvation and in relationships. And that's great news! 😀 Of course if your bf isnt saved then that is a pressing issue, since tomorrow is never guaranteed. But, handle this current situation as godly and graciously as you can. If there is error in your behavior then do go to him after he cooled off and ask forgiveness, (and correct yourself in godliness). If he doesnt want you in his life anymore, you still need to be descent in interactions for the kids. Realize, if he isnt saved then that was unequally yoked [living in rebellion to God & he wont bless thus]. God may have allowed this to sever that kind of relationship with him, so you do not go further into sin [since we cannot be with/marry a unbeliever]. This could be a grace, so let God's will be done  (and in your life too). Pray for his salvation, but if it do...

I need help without being judged. I got out of a 3 year relationship recently and it wasn't a very clean breakup a lot happened. But while being in the relationship I found out I was pregnant. And it's put me in a very bad place emotionally. I have to constantly put on a happy face and tell everyone I'm doing ok but In reality I'm not ok. And I don't know what to do. I see posts about him constantly being happy and having the best time. I think that it's not fair. I'm now stuck having to take care of a child and he gets to go to college. I just need help I don't know what to do I'm tired of constantly balling my eyes out at night. I've tried talking to someone, I've tried praying, meds. Nothing is helping. And with school coming up I don't know how much judgment from everyone I can take. I do have parents supportiveness but its all just overwhelming. 🥺😭 A: He is the father and has responsibility to the child. He needs to provide financi...

Q: What are some things that you would recommend (to a married couple) to do prior to having a baby? My husband are waiting on the Lord to provide kids in near future, but would like to do things that are good "pre kid prep" until they arrive. Examples we’ve already thought of are starting a baby hope chest, as well as taking a baby financial class. A: My advice is study and read the Bible dsily. You will be exhausted and so tired with young kids your going to lack in the Bible areas, so put as priority (now). Bith individually and together. Plus praying together.  Next is Family financial advising, living trusts, medical directives, wills.. Do go to marriage counseling via biblical marriage counselor. You want to gain proper mindset towards each other and know how to handle decision making & disagreements so all goes as smoothbas possible. Actively care about the other over yourself.  Making sure you communicate DAILY in your marriage, and are submitting to each other in...

Q: I moved to another State a few months ago, and I have been struggling with my faith in Christ and my sense of identity.  I have been really hard on myself about my distance from God, my lack of reading the Bible, praying and interceding for others. I know that there’s grace for my imperfection and shortcomings, but I really don’t like to disappoint God nor take his grace for granted. I try my best to make good decisions, do the right things, and learn from my mistake; but every time I mess up I hate myself even after repenting (especially over small mistakes like cursing).  I spoke to a therapist who made me realize I struggle with perfectionism, self-hatred, shame, not setting good boundaries, communication anxiety and a significant fear of not being good enough.  Lately I’ve been finding myself completely dissatisfied with my everyday life and getting caught up in not being the person I want to be. It’s really frustrating and it hurts because I want to serve the lord...