CounselingChristians

Q: I need some prayers... I have a mom that is pretty bitter and I understand because of the life she lived. However, I got engaged. This man and I have been together for 6 years and yes we've had problems in the past but we have both made the decision to put God first in everything we do. My mom is not supportive at all. I asked if she would walk me down the aisle and she said no, & that she would never support my relationship. She is a God fearing woman but she has a lot of built up bitterness and anger. I'm just really needing prayers for the Lord to soften her heart. TIA A: If she hates men, or they badly treated her, and is worried your life will be miserable... see if your pastor can calm her fears a bit.  Is she a believer, who hasn't been able to trust men? Maybe she needs to see the change in him as a professing follower, living in righteousness now, before she can accept him? If so, you may want to discuss that with him and postpone the wedding ceremony until ...

Q: Our niece who is a professing believer, has a child and is living with her baby daddy. They both work, but she keeps asking to borrow money every week, sometimes multiple times a week, for different amounts. She not only asks us, she also asks multiple members of the family for all different reasons and amounts.  My husband and I are very conflicted about this. He is the sole provider of our home as I am a stay at home mom, we are barely making it as it is. I want to help people in need and would give my last dollar to someone if they need it. I trust our Father that he will take care of us in all areas of our life. But I’m starting to feel used and that she may not be using the money for what she says they need it for The things she usually asks money for is gas, the dentist to get her teeth fixed, or car issues/repairs. It’s usually between those reasons. Where do we draw a line or do we set boundaries. Are there any scriptures that may lead me in the right direction. I’m g...

Q: I went through a very hard time in my walk recently and honestly slowly I feel like I’m coming out of it but through that time I would obviously open up to the people I thought I was close with. One of the ladies we got along well we use to sit on the phone a lot. When I told her what I was going through she had compassion she did and she did pray with me. But idk if it’s because of her personality but speak of the things she said was a little harsh and slowly we started to talk less and I know on my end I kind of went into my shell. I feel like she kinda looked at my situation as foolishness and she basically told me that it’s either I choose to trust Jesus or trust the devil, because I fell into sin. The Lord end up showing me why I fell into sin and it had something to do with the healing of my younger self.  I recently returned to church for the first time in a while, and she saw me and said oh your back at church? and I was like yeah, and her response was “about time”. I kn...

Q: I’m at a loss as to what to do about the situation with my mom and stepdad. My step dad is verbally and emotionally abusive towards my mom. They have been married for 14 years. I have witnessed it happen, and every time I want to speak up about it, but I freeze. I can’t talk, I feel like crying right then and there.  I have repeatedly told my mom that is not the way a husband should treat a wife. But her excuse is always “well he doesn’t physically or sexually abuse me like your dad did” and I always tell her, “still doesn’t mean it’s right” I have been really praying for her and my step dad. My step dad and mom are Christian’s and go to church and pray.  I’m really close with my step family, my step grandma and I are besties. My step grandpa still calls me “Dave’s wife’s daughter”, (I changed my step dad’s name for privacy). My mom has a full time job, but he doesn't let her/not allowed - to use her money towards things she wants. She has to ask him permission if she needs...

Q: I REALLY want to honor God and I truly hate divorce but when is enough enough?? I actually can't stand my husband most days he's a great provider he knows how to communicate mostly BUT he is constantly talking down on me I never leave, well I won't say never, but he rarely says anything uplifting he is constantly gas lighting me, throws things at me and when we get in heated arguments it's always my fault he will call me out of my name, he's never punched me but he has hit me with a pillow to the point where my neck was messed up, hes thrown me, hes thrown food away, again... its my fault which I can make things more heated in a way. In return ever since we've moved I barely have desire to cook anymore, and he loves food which causes issues. I dont even know who I am aside from being a wife and a mother..I do have an attitude problem I tend not to open up he things I'm being secretive but I just don't like the reactions... he justifies his angry becau...

Q: I’m 22. I have a bf of almost 2 years.. last year I devoted myself to Christ and became Christian. I won’t sit here and act like I’ve been perfect since then.  My boyfriend isn’t Christian but he still believes God is good and he has a plan and he believes some stuff, but is still skeptical bc he’s a ‘science ‘ kind of guy when it comes to biblical things. Also I know I shouldn’t be fornicating/intimate before marriage. I know as it's in the Bible. But he says that because we plan to get married it’s okay. We have found eachother and love eachother a lot and we will spend the rest of our lives together so to him he dosent see it as an issue to say. He said back then people could just profess their love to God and be married and his eyes. Today’s marriage and back then are diffrent. We can be married in the eyes of God even tho we aren’t married in the eyes of the government yet… and I agreed bc yea? I guess?…. But idk.. idk how to feel.. I want to do things to sometimes so it’s ...

Q: Husband revealed he sees prostitutes This is not a easy thing to talk about, but I need godly advice . I found out that my husband was paying prostitutes after work for over three years. Never showed any signs of this. He told me he had sex with over 20 Prostitutes. Also that he had an issue with pornography and lust .  I am as calm as can be, but I dont know what . Probably and more than likely God keeping and holding me together. We have three babies ages 8, 6, and 1 years old .  When we talked I brought up that i didn’t feel that things were right and he told me he never said anything due to shame . He asked me for forgiveness and a second chance . I called my pastor and i was told by my pastor that forgiveness is the will of God and I don’t deny that . But he also said that I must be reconciled with him . Because if there’s no reconciliation there’s no forgiveness . And if I don’t forgive / reconcile I would’nt be obeying the word of God .  He also said that bec...