Have bf but kissed someone else

Q:
I am 17 and in a relationship with a guy (20). But I am disappointed in myself.  I allowed a friend to kiss me a few hours ago (yes it was my first kiss). It was not consensual in the beginning, but I gave in eventually.
Guilt has been eating me up all day and I have no idea what steps to take.

I acknowledge that I should have nothing to do with relationships at this stage but I got in for experience sake and I actually do love my boyfriend. 

What happened was a mistake and I've barely been able to say a word of prayer because... God's probably not happy with me rn.

Please pray for me and give advice. 

A: Well assuming it is a male friend, that one is a wolf. He is pretending to be a friend and will stick around prowling fir 15 years if he thinks theres a remote chance he can get you into bed. "Men" cannot be friends with women. They have ulterior motives that are not neutral and not pure. 

It sounds like you were a victim, but also like you allowed it when after it was happening, for the experience. 

If you are born again; saved, then go to God about it. And advice:  tell your boyfriend what the guy did which stole your kiss, that you were weak and allowed yourself to be alone with him bcuz you trusted him as a friend, but now know he is not one.  BUT. First go message that other guy and tell him " what he did it was wrong, and it was wrong for you to allow it, and that you wont be doing it again, that your bf is aware today, and that you are cutting off your "friendship" since his intentions were made known, and you resolved not to have any male friends going forward, nor be alone with them." Then go tell your bf and ask his understanding & forgiveness. Show him the text you sent the guy, and in front of him...you block and delete that guys number. And email and remove him from all socials. And notify your friends via group text that you have cut off relations with that guy and not to bring him up in any convos nor inquire about the issue. 

If you never kissed, he is either:
* upset that the guy did that & is glad you took actions, and wont let the guy around ypu anymore.
*upset that he put in time into a relationship with you and he didnt get the first kiss. Because he is a groomer who seeks out virgins. 

My main concern now tho... is that you are with an older man who might be grooming you. Older men prey on younger women. If he is:
*not born again and lives a holy godly life
*is alone with you, without others there
*is engaged in kissing, cuddling 
*is engaged in sexual things with you (by text, video or in person
You need to flee that relationship. 

Dating is really a modern code for sinful fornication. For sex outside marriage. 

God ordained marriage; leaving father and mother to unite as one and begin a family. 

Seeking a godly man properly happens in a courtship with guardians, goals, lots of discussions, and determining if he is not the right one. And repeating until you find the one. Marriage follows shortly after. 

Dating is an easy way wicked predators roam around ready to pounce on someone purposely for fornication. 

Men are wired to desire sex by God's design for procreation and pleasure in marriage. Young men especially. You cannot play with fire. 

If he is not saved, and clearly living a righteous life, flee. We are not to be unequally yoked.  If he is a solid Christian, he will have no problem with you switching up the relationship to a courtship situation and bringing in guardians so you stay pure and are never alone together.

Follow the righteous ways and go the path blessed by God. Do not ruin your life. 

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