CounselingChristians

Q: In a moment of heat my husband (not a believer) blasphemed twice in front of family, with a lot of anger.  He later apologized (which he never does) but it was such a quick “sorry” just to get me to stop bringing it up.  When he gets upset he will word vomit a bunch of cuss words and say in excuse it’s bc he’s upset.  We have been through so much in our 5 years of marriage, things started gong downhill after our first child was born. We are currently separated and were supposed to be doing counseling but it has been 4 months,  and his angry outburst are just so unpredictable. This separation has made me feel like I don’t love him anymore, I’m also not attracted to him at all physically, mentally, nothing.  I have prayed to be able to forgive him, I have prayed for his heart to soften towards us. It’s scary feeling like there is absolutely no more love towards him anymore. It feels like he will never change, things won’t change.  Appreciate your advice an...

Q: Why is it in convos when believing women say "my husband treats me terrible… and this is how…” but those providing responses or counsel go right to “are you a good wife…?”  I say this because I was raised in a “godly, Christian home” and guess what?! My dad just straight was a narcissist… no matter how my mom acted.  God didn’t say worship yalls man… God didn’t say slave to yalls man… men should be held to a higher standard. Yall are giving them the bare minimum and that’s not okay. A: Voddie rightfully notes that when believers go their own way (marry unequally yoked in rebellion to God's command), they reap what they sow. "You married him. You got exactly what you wanted".  Equally-yoked married couples focus on pursuing holiness, being a godly spouse. The husband loves the wife as Christ loves the Church, and the wife loves her husband. She is a blessing to him, a treasure, and he is grateful to God, and treats her as such.  In unequally yoked marriages, the be...

Q: Really in need of advice here. I carry a lot of hatred for this world ....and for many of the people in it. I know i shouldnt but i do. Everywhere I look social media, the news, even just stepping outside all I see is injustice, evil, and suffering. It feels like we’re truly in the end times, and honestly, I’m just sick of being here. I’m tired and I feel ready to return to the Lord. For a long time, I used marijuana daily to numb how deeply I felt about all of this, especially my anger. But I recently had to quit (which I believe was God intervening), and now that I’m sober, I still feel as before but in addition feel everything even more intensely. I struggle with rage. It’s not just getting mad it’s a full-body, overwhelming physical reaction. I feel my blood boiling, I start sweating, and it takes over. I feel like i need to take revenge against any person who i feel is evil. Like it’s my personal duty even though i know it’s God’s. It’s not something I can breathe through or ta...

Q: Can you please advise for my situation.  I tore ligaments in my foot I am in a boot and using crutches. I babysit all day yesterday come home to do 2 loads of laundry, I kept on getting up to reset the washer because we have to do that with the washer. Struggling to carrying the clothes to put them away (we have a 1 story level). I was getting really frustrated because my husband was texting me saying I was "ignoring him", so I told him "I was busy doing and struggling and you are just lying on the couch don’t even bother to help and I know you work all day, but I work nonstop". So yes I am mad, I was having a rough day I told him everything was going wrong. Then he left to go somewhere I told him "if you wanted to me to pay attention and spend time with you shouldn’t left". I am trying so hard to communicate with him, and of course I have been sticking up for myself that I am not going to put up with it. He has mental issues like severe depression and...

Many men in Christian homes who are new, weak in the faith or just clueless dont even know this, so unsaved men def don't. They live sinfully selfish lives, oblivious and uncaring. Being married means you are united as one. You have one purpose together as a unit and are a team on mission for Christ, presenting the Gospel to the world by your life lived in Faith, by being of one mind and mission to present and teach the Gospel to your kids and others, and are a team. So when we live out being Christlike, husbands too are to love their wives as Christ loved and loves the Church (his bride). Husbands are to be the humble sacrificial servant to you just as you are to him. Putting each other and the family before one's self. This is a reason Scripture points out that Husbands are to love their wives. Loving as Christ did and does for his bride. The lengths he went to on mission and at the cross, and elas servant to God and fellow man even to doing dirty despised things such as was...

Q: My husband and I got married last year . I also became a Christian last year . He was already a Christian . We have a good relationship for the most part .  We have one main issue that is a struggle of sorts💔. I came into our relationship with a dog (who’s been with me for the last 11 years). My husband is not a dog person and my little dog has some anxiety issues and so he has snipped at him a couple times. The dog is missing most of his teeth so even when he snips, he’s not causing any damage. My husband hates my dog. I don’t know how to deal with this. This am he got super upset because the dog vomited on the carpet 🥹. He keeps saying , I need to get rid of the dog . And I know that if something is coming between us then I need to do something. This dog is my life . He’s like my child . Even if I gave him away , I would resent my husband for it . I don’t know what to do. I keep praying to God to help me . I’m so heartbroken about this . A: If he loves you [ & as Christ...

Q: We've been together for a year, but we argue and there's problems. I want things to be how they were in the beginning. What to do?? A: Well first of all we need to look at what Scripture says about relationships. There were no couple relationships outside of marriage. In Bible times pursuing someone meant first your s/o was vetted to be a mature believer, and then engagement meant you were to be married, but not actually married. It was as legal as marriage and a covenant promise, not completed or finalized till you wed. No man would enter into a agreement or pursue considewe'd. marraige until he could provide for a family and that included having a home to live in. The betrothed man would spend that engaged year preparing the final things to be in place to begin a married life and have a family. The bride would live at home after engagement, and remain pure. They were never alone together. She waited until he called for her and they married. When he called her it was fo...