CounselingChristians

Q: Will one go to hell if they marry a non believer? A: Are you asking if God will approve of and be ok with you living in rebellious sin towards God's command (for believers to only unite with other believers)?  I cant fathom why any true Christian would even consider that thought let alone pursue that path to destruction. It's actually a premeditated plotting of a sin crime against God.  Your life will be ruined if you pursue that, and God won't hear your prayers since you are living in willful sin. Once married to him your stuck in perpetual sin. Your life and marriage wont be blessed. You wint Go to Hell but you will be living in hell on earth for 80 years. Why would anyone in their right mind do that?  There is no blessing in such a sinful union.  Heres helpful info for you to go through to further guide you avoid going down that wrong path. On Unequally yoked matters (warning for those dating unequally yoked)  Dating guidance and resources  (Helps fo...

Q: Can you please advise for my situation.  I tore ligaments in my foot I am in a boot and using crutches. I babysit all day yesterday come home to do 2 loads of laundry, I kept on getting up to reset the washer because we have to do that with the washer. Struggling to carrying the clothes to put them away (we have a 1 story level). I was getting really frustrated because my husband was texting me saying I was "ignoring him", so I told him "I was busy doing and struggling and you are just lying on the couch don’t even bother to help and I know you work all day, but I work nonstop". So yes I am mad, I was having a rough day I told him everything was going wrong. Then he left to go somewhere I told him "if you wanted to me to pay attention and spend time with you shouldn’t left". I am trying so hard to communicate with him, and of course I have been sticking up for myself that I am not going to put up with it. He has mental issues like severe depression and...

Re: UY raging, discontent Bipolar ADHD husband whose on & off about God, wife has concern over influencing the kids.  Q: my husband fluctuates between wanting to live a life that brings glory to the Lord and being mostly disinterested in God and "wanting to live a life for himself." He claims to be saved but during the disinterested periods of time will sometimes say that he "wants nothing to do with God" etc. When he’s on fire for the Lord he "wants to be a pastor" (he has preached a few sermons), or wants to lead a youth group, and wants to sing with our kids.  He has been diagnosed as bipolar so I feel like the mental health aspect is a part of this although honestly his mania presents more like ADHD (impulsive with new hobbies/business ideas and wanting to drop money on them) with a side of just being a mean, ragey person. Anyway, I’m not positive where the bipolar diagnosis came from, he found it in his chart from the therapist that he had seen on...

Q: I’m currently in a somewhat unyoked marriage. Before we wed, neither of us had strong beliefs. He grew up Buddhist, I grew up going to a Christian church on Easter and maybe once every other year. I was forced to go to youth group for awhile, since there was a church behind our house my mom took it as a free babysitter for an hour a week. I got saved late last year so am a new believer. And my husband is just started to come around. He’ not turned to Christ yet, so he still has times of mockery.  To my question- admittedly so, I’m only about 1/2, close to 3/4 done reading the Bible so I have not 100% grasped yet what "a biblical wife" looks like other than being nurturing, peaceful, loving, etc. for the majority of our marriage whether I worked I not I did 95% of the housework, childcare, cooking, etc. my husband has always worked hard labor with a 2 hour one way commute so I never ever complained or asked for help. He also pays for 95% of our bills and he does all of our ...

Q: I'm unsure what to say to my husband. For a few years now he has always told me how he wants to try micro dosing with mushrooms. His reasoning is "I want to see God". I tell him how mushrooms and other forms of getting high just alter the brain and are huge risks to your mental health. Is there a way to safely micro dose? Is he opening up a can of worms to demonic things? For extra context he is VERY non religious. He very much does not agree with the Christian faith, while I myself am strong in the Faith A: We see God in Christ and Scripture.  That's where he needs to go. We are to come to God by the way he told us to. Not our way & alt attempts. If hes not seeking the true God, he will in idolatry go where he wants to. That's what the unsaved do. Even though Satan blinds the unsaved, and has them in chains to their sin nature, the Gospel truth can set him free, (unless he's a hellbound child of Satan). Drug usage is what pagans did in attempts to g...

Cut off/toxic family Q: I’ve hit breaking point and it is time to cut off my toxic family members. Endless amounts of abuse, nastiness, pain over the years and I can no longer tolerate it.  How can I stand firm in this? Where can I go to in the Bible to help me with this. A: It appears you need more counsel on this. It might be that your new to Christianity or not maturing in the Faith. This can help... Today 1 in 4 are going no contact with family. This estrangement issue is problematic if the person wanting to exit... professes to be Christian.  We as Christians are not called to cut people off or out so we can live in some "happiness bubble". Our best life isnt here on this fallen temporary planet, nor is our life to revolve around ourself, but Christ. We born again ones are called to minister to the lost, the hurting and unsaved. We are ministers of the Gospel, a light in our family, and Ambassadors of Christ. God placed us in this family for the work he has planned fi...

Q: This probably sounds dumb, but - My husband wants a divorce, I don't. He had bought me a cross necklace ( real jewelry ) and I wear it 24/7. It hurts to look at it at times and a part of me wants to rip it off my neck out of hurt and anger. But because it has the cross on it, I don't want to toss it out of guilt because of the symbol of the cross. Is it wrong of me to get rid of the necklace? Am I just being paranoid you think ? A: The necklace was given out of love snd reminds you of your Savior who perfectly loved and loves you. Keep it. Is he professing Christ? Does he go to church? Does he have a more neutral or positive vs negative mindset about God? Is he open to counseling? I would keep the cross. Tbh you could use it as a springboard for various convos w him. *"Honey, you know Jesus went to extremes lengths to show his love for us, while we were sinners... we should think like God. Let's get counseling and try to save this marriage." * "Ho...

Q: I feel lost.  I've been born again for a few years... but the last 2 years I've been drifting. My grandmother passed away 2 weeks ago, and I struggle to talk to God.  I feel so guilty and I want to have a relationship with Him again. I just don't know what to do Advice will be greatly appreciated. A: God is the God of peace, love and blessing. He will always leave Gis 99 to come lead the one who strayed, back, and onto the right path. It is the right timing to come back to Him. Lean on God at this time & you will get your strength from the promises and guidance he gave us, for during life's difficult times 🫂😊.  Here are some grief reminders and encouragement, helps to help you through this grief season.  Read the verses in there daily, and read the Bible too. Look at the stories where grief is shown and see how God helped them think and get through it. And trust God to walk through this with you. To help you... here are several stories that illustrate grief...

Will I go to hell for fornicating with my bf. Q: I have recently given myself to God and gotten baptized. I haven't had sex with with my Boyfriend in 6 months. I feel like he's losing interest. He hasn't necessarily "asked" for it . But he will throw out hints. We've been together 2 years and I don't want to lose him . Would God send me to hell if I have sex with my Boyfriend? I was baptized and washed away my sins  A: Obeying the Gospel saves you [that's when God causes you to be born again]. Baptism afterward; that is just a public testimony showing you have already died in Christ and are risen in Him. If your bf isn't Christian, share this with him, discuss it, and if he comes to Christ put boundaries around your dating, n[ever be alone anywhere (where sex could happen)]. Have him join the local church, get discipled by the men at mens group there, seek counsel from them, and grow in holiness. If he doesn't come to Christ, then exit...

Q: There has been something weighing heavily on me for a while, and I just ask for godly, but gentle and kind response. Growing up, I was always taught and always intended to wait until marriage. I was as dead set as I could be, and I never had any temptations about it… until I got to college. It’s no excuse, but I was disconnected from everyone I knew and my spiritual support, and with that I fell away somewhat.  So, I had sexual temptation for the first time ever, and I didn’t know how to handle it, and I eventually “gave in”. It’s been a few years now, and I’ve asked God for forgiveness and repented, but I’m far too ashamed to tell anyone of faith, especially my close friends and parents. I saw my close friends, who are all married now, get excited about being with their husbands for the first time, and I heard how special it is to learn and experience it together. I feel like I’ve ruined everything in that regard. That I’ve not only ruined myself, but ruined what was supposed t...

Q: I need some advice about my current situation. For three years, I was heavily involved in a church. Constantly serving, lived in a discipleship home, at every single service, etc… I don’t want to get into details, but I was very burnt out, and a lot of the people I looked to as leaders had hurt me deeply. I made the decision to leave & move across the country with the help of my (now) boyfriend, who I’ve known as a good friend for years.  I will admit, it hurt a lot to walk away from the life I had built there, but I was drowning. I was constantly told that if I left the church, I would be “leaving the covering”, and that I could die. The last person I talked to before I left, one of my leaders, had told me she hopes God convicts me, and that I repent before the enemy takes me. A lot of people that I considered extremely close friends in the church never reached out to me after I left, and it made me question if anyone ever really cared for me. I now live with my boyfriend i...

Q: Will having an “angry” father (not everyday but it’s unpredictable, sometimes every few weeks or longer periods sometimes shorter) affect my daughter? Im so scared if that. It’s mostly angry “at the world” not really anything we are doing inside the house or us but he basically word vomits and starts just lumping everything in together or gets easy frustrated, short tempered, if small things go wrong, or if hes already stressed and not speaking kind at all. He doesn’t yell at her but I know it feels scary for her not understand when and why. He has yelled at me. It’s scary for me too. I’m doing my best to let her know it’s never her fault and we need to be acting the way God has told us to act from the Bible but wondering what else I can do so this doesn’t effect her. I’m praying he will change and he hasn’t always been this bad, but now it’s been going on about 5-6 years, with ebbs and flows she’s 7. Hes been behaving this way basically her whole life. A: Is he a professing believ...

Q: I can't stop the self hatred and extreme anger I feel towards myself.  My husband died a little over a year ago from complications of a stroke. He had a massive stroke on February 19, 2024 and passed away a few weeks later on March 6, 2024 from complications that developed afterwards. We had spent the late afternoon he had his stroke running a couple little errands. Then when we got home that evening, I went and did some work on the computer (I used to sell on Etsy) and then washed my hair. At one point, I went to our bedroom because I wanted to tell my husband something but I saw the door to the master bathroom, that's attached to the master bedroom, was closed. This was maybe an hour after we got back home. I remembered that he had complained of irregularity earlier that day, so instead of interrupting him, I walked out of the bedroom to give him some alone time. I came back maybe a half hr later and still saw the bathroom door closed.  This time I had an instinct that m...

Q: I’ve been pretty distant with God lately, I don’t want to be but every time I try to push through and read the Bible I just get so angry I have to stop. Right now, I honestly think it’s stemming from feeling like God doesn’t want me to have any friends. I haven’t had a friend in so long, and I recently stayed home all weekend to watch my sister’s pets while she went to see her best friend who lives out of state, I was happy to do it, but it also just brought up a lot of complex feelings. It’s not a simple jealousy thing when I see people doing stuff with their friends, etc. It breaks my heart, and people will say “Just focus on God” or “Make God your friend” and I’m honestly tired of hearing that bc it makes me feel like I’m not allowed to desire friendship, like I’m asking for too much just bc I want a friend. Even my sister hardly spends time with me, which hurts even more than not having friends. I’m not closed off, I’ve done everything I can to “get out there” it just doesn’t wo...