CounselingChristians

Q: Needing advice on how to deal with “backlash” from family and friends about living a biblical marriage. My husband and I are far from perfect, but our basic biblical foundation is that he is the head of the household, and while I have a voice and my voice is heard, my husband gets the last say. My husband would prefer if I didn’t work, but I absolutely have the choice to. I also like to consult my husband before I make decisions or do things to be respectful and because I care about his guiding lead.  My family does not take to this very well. My younger sister and her bf have a very modern, anti-conservative, non-Christian relationship structure and don’t want kids or to be ruled by the “misogyny” of the Bible. She’s made comments that if I don’t have dinner ready by the time my husband gets home he’ll be mad. My father has the mindset that a woman who doesn’t work is worthless and he has told me a few times that my husband will leave me for a female coworker who is more of a h...

Q: God says He is always with us right? My husband of 14 years was arrested last month for dv abuse against me, he spent some time in jail, more in the psyche ward. He was never the spiritual leader he promised to be. In fact, just in the past few days, after many many sermons about testing and self-examination, he has come to the realization that *he is not a Christian*. I have no idea if he will ever give his life to to Christ.  There's several mental illnesses involved and he went off meds a few years back and has been iffy at best with his meds and therapy for these since. He has been abusive verbally, mentally, emotionally for years and there's been porn involved, of a particular grostedque nature and our marriage has never been consummated. I thought we were passed that years ago, but my discovering his backslide is what triggered the incident. He has rages several times a weeks, most days really, often more than one a day. There's more issues but that's enough t...

Q: I need prayers …I’m sure I know what I need to do, stay, pray for my husband...but I’m just so lost and so sad, hurt, & feel humiliated… My husband "came to God" again at the beginning of January, never thought that would happen, great but only thing is he doesn’t want to go to our local church, he wants to only watch [ redacted] preach because he claims that’s “his church”, thst he’s tired because he works all day Saturday and Sunday he "just can’t" go there physically, he tried going to resurrection service but "couldn’t" get out the door to get there. It sounds lazy excuse.  I was sad because even before he got saved he would go here and there with us. But now "not once". And he gets mad when I go. He’ll tell me to leave our 2 year old because “why does she need to go?” And if I take her he makes my oldest teen stay. Like to punish me? I’m just trying to take my kids ofc I’d love to go as a family but forsure most definitely my kids nee...