CounselingChristians

Q: How do you handle mean comments or criticism from a spouse? I don't want to be sensitive or overly emotional. But I just can't help but feel like I'm not enough, like I'm such a failure. He changed so much after we married. He's not the nicest person. And he criticizes everything I do. I never hear a compliment. He never tries to make me feel good about my self. Everything is always my fault. If I tell him I have a headache, it's my fault. If the kids get sick it's my fault. If he gets sick it's my fault. He makes me feel like I'm a child and not his wife. I constantly feel like I'm the stupidest person on the planet. I'm just tired of feeling this way. It's been almost 12 years. I wonder sometimes why God put me on this planet if I'm such a failure of a person. A: Are you unequally yoked or is he s believer? Is there validity in his criticisms that God may be bringing to your attention to help you mature in the faith, conquer sin...

Q: I have a hardcore atheist husband who doesn’t want his children raised in the church. I married him knowing he wasnt a believer, but... I really want out of this marriage. I just don’t see a fruitful future. We dont have kids yet, & cant see having them with him. I am concerned about that and being stuck with him long term.  Can I divorce him?  A: Decisions have consequences. You chose to marry him knowingly in rebellion to God and the command not to be unequally yoked. You cant expect blessings by doing something like that. You couldve ran at the alter, and saved your life. Now, you are in the marriage so you have to stay 🤷🏻‍♂️. You are stuck. Marriage covenants are for life. *This is a 80 year decision and isn't to be be made lightly, no marriage plans should proceed without the green light by your Pastor.  Too many believers do not go get godly counsel from their Pastor, and, do not go through a couples class at church (where the believer would be be clearly ...

Q:  I have a friend of 6 years that I "feel" compatible with but he is not saved. I am so torn by wanting to love and be involved with him, but I WANT Jesus MORE. I have resolved to not be alone with him in a room, like ever, and I will not compromise my promise for waiting for marriage. There have been other male suitors that are of the faith, but I am not as "meshed" with them or interested in them... and it is difficult to tear away from this man to pursue a godly one.  In all honesty I do NOT think I am ready for marriage or a relationship but the passion and interest is there, and I cannot make it go away.  I know Jesus says to cut off, but like I said it is so difficult to tear away from him. I find myself wanting to annoy him just to make him mad to break it off with me, but he doesn't budge. I NEED HELP. A: We should never put ourselves in this situation to begin with. The unequally yoked command applies to friendships too. And... Women cannot be friends...

Q: My boyfriend is a non-believer and i dont really know what to do. I date to marry and we are already a year deep into the relationship. We talk about marriage and life after we graduate (which is coming up) all the time and its just fine, but when I discuss my faith, he gets super argumentative and insulting even when im being respectful about my faith. I found God while being with him and he’s not very happy or supportive about it. I want a relationship with God being the center but I also dont want to leave him. What do I do? I feel like I’m drowning. For further context, I have tried to turn him to Christ very slowly and subtly over the course of our relationship, but it seems as though the more Christ comes into my life, the further he runs. A: Well God has been clear we are not to be unequally yoked. Better to lose a year then live very miserably for the next 80! There is one thing you can try to do before you cut it off and bounce...and you are doing it. A lot of times peo...