CounselingChristians

Husband wrestling w convictions & sin surrenders, now avoids home & family life, is mean, nitpicky & negative even to our toddlers.  Q:  My husband and I are both believers, and over the last three years we’ve been actively trying to grow in our walk with Christ. Up until about 6–8 months ago, my husband was also pursuing growth, but lately things have shifted. He’s given up a lot and made some big lifestyle changes, but now he’s wrestling with convictions he never thought he’d have to face. He knows we’re called to surrender it all to Christ if He asks, but he doesn’t really want to let go of certain things. Instead of leaning into those convictions, he’s been pulling away from God—and from us. He’s not abusive, but he can be neglectful—of me, the kids, and our home. He often finds reasons to be gone late, which means he usually gets home after the kids are in bed, and sometimes after I am too. When he is home, he’s not present. He seems depressed, and honestly, h...

Q: Why do people comment rudely? A: How do you know they meant it that way?  There is something called judging righteously, which is accepted in the Christian faith. If you’re doing something that’s wrong or unacceptable a believer will, in love, try to guide you to the right way.  One of the problems today is the one reading a toneless text has made assumptions on what a person meant, without knowing how they meant it and the intention of their heart. They couldve done their best to express something, or bcuz of age and how shortly they said or commented (vs detailed). The best thing to do to avoid misunderstanding is kindly ask "pls clarify" or kindly say "what did you mean by that? 🙃".  Other times the person is in fact doing what Scripture says to: Proverbs 15:31 "The ear that heeds correction attains to life, but he who scorns reproof goes astray." Proverbs 27:5 "Open rebuke is better than hidden love." 2 Timothy 4:2 "Preach the word; ...