CounselingChristians

A few months ago, my husband , a professing Christian, joined a group of non-Christian male neighbors to socialize... with the intention of sharing Jesus with them.   After becoming a Christian, my husband rarely drank, Now he’s drinking liquor with them every time he’s with them (several drinks already this week). Tonight while out to eat, I suggested divorce. Please pray my husband has a change of heart, stops drinking, returns to Jesus and walks blamelessly before God. Pray my husband chooses to put God/Jesus first, our marriage second, and not gets lost in this group of new friends. And, please pray my husband will never consider nor discuss nor pursue divorce. Please pray God opens his heart, mind and eyes to see that he’s backsliding and becoming worldly… he told me he’s being a great Christian witness to these friends. Pray the devil will not win, but God gives me and my husband the victory through Jesus. Thanks.  A: Sorry to hear this.  He definitely sho...

Q: I need help. I went out drinking on Saturday night which is not something I is usually ever do, but I did. I was talking to a lady at the bar about Jesus, and it was a really beautiful conversation. People kept bringing shot after shot and I kept taking them, and then the entire night took a turn. I am dealing with the death of my mom just 4 weeks ago, and I feel like I became manic on Saturday night. I turned into a crazy person. I almost felt possessed I lost all control over myself. The guilt, shame, depression, etc etc etc is totally overcoming me. The worst part was in my drunken stupor, I was talking about Jesus. disgracing his name! How could I try to share my love / experiences with God while being a drunken fool! I just feel so lost right now without my mom. And I made an absolute fool of myself and I disgraced Jesus. I have been praying and repenting but this shame knows no end. My relationship with God is so strong, but idk who the heck that was in control of my body on S...

Q: Can you have a party life and still be close with God? I'm ashamed to admit that I have become someone I don't like. I recently turned 21, and started going out to parties with my mother and getting drunk.  I've skipped youth group once to drink; I know that's wrong, and I've talked to God about it and apologized again and again. I tell myself that I know this isn't me, that I know better and don't wanna be a part of it anymore, but I just get pulled right back into it. I still go to church every Thursday and Sunday. I still study the word of God almost every day. I sit and talk to God all the time. But I'm wondering if he's mad at me... Idk, am I a bad person for doing this? Am I becoming a lukewarm Christian, am I even a Christian?  A: Believers need to know all our sins are forgiven (past present future) by Jesus when we got saved. After salvation we are progressing in/growing in sanctification. We will not be perfected until we step into eter...

Q: 😩 😥 I was 32 days sober and then last night I slipped up. I am beyond mad at myself. A: Repent and move on. Addiction is an awful illness and the more you feel ashamed of it the longer it has control. Stop counting days. That in itself makes you think about alcohol. Just focus on filling your mind with other things. Keep yourself busy. One day you'll wake up and realize it's been 6mo, a year, etc. And Praise God 🙏. Remember what a joy that tomorrow is a new day and a new chance at a fresh start!! Acknowledge and, recognise what triggered it and then give yourself some extra compassion. You're not less of a Christian for struggling, you are in process of conquering that sin. Habbits/behaviours bring comfort & familiarity, especially If it's been a long term thing. You're not alone. I'm proud of you for facing the failure or "stumble". It is in the past now. Give yourself some grace, get back up and finish the race. 😊 If this helps and...

Concern over judgment for stop smoking. Q: I don’t want to drink/smoke anymore and I don’t know how to tell my best friend. i’m afraid she may judge me or lose interest in me. She is my only true friend and i don’t know how to go about this. please pray for me and advise. A: Alright, nice decision on deciding to stop At minimum, for the sake of your health it sure is a good decision. You could start by telling her you have been convicted,  by your personal faith  and loss of interest, and want cut on your consumption of such things, maybe from smoking daily to twice in a week or so? With time, you'll drop this vice finally.  And then, let her just deal with it as you go abiut change you are convinced and convictrd to follow through with. She might follow your lead and see there's no good for smoking and drinking so 😀 you might influence her to stop too. Win win & lead by example; really conquer it.  Along the way just trust God, and fill your life with peopl...