CounselingChristians

Q: Suffering for me has made me a worse person, I hate to say. I am more bitter, envious, angry and fragile. Fighting my hardening heart is my number one challenge, especially when my life seems to get worse on almost a daily basis (this has been going on for 30 years!) This feels like punishment, I feel hopeless.  I came to Faith in 1978, & never thought could be the cynical Christian I am today. It is sad. Only the Lord can change my heart, I know He is a miracle worker, and I am open to that, but my suffering is more than I can bear.  A: God has helped you get this far. Keep holding on. Idk if you've sought biblical counseling to help you through these things, but highly recommend it. You can find that personal help here . Along with that, in a self help, growth pursuit, I'd like to point you towards understanding God better, by His attributes and purpose for Mankind, and His will being accomplished. When were focused on Him (and trusting Him & His sovereignty) and...

Q: Need suggestions regards of myself and my own healing as I’m soon to be 28 and I have zero friends, no job and am disappointed in life.  I have friends from high school or middle school and I don’t keep in contact as they started their own lives or I’m always put on the back burner or they just moved away and had their own lives. It’s been 10+ years since I had a female (same sex) friend seems like after I got a relationship the timing wasn’t good or he would disapprove of. Or they wouldn’t stick and end up treating me horrible such as A. Being my friend and stealing B. Being a friend and trying to get with my partner. Or C both. Either way I haven’t had the best situation with getting or having friends within my adult years!  It’s been very rough. I feel such regret and pain even hate and jealousy which I know isn’t what a person should be. I just don’t know how to to deal with I had a kid after a great job and lost it (was fired for maternity leave) and I felt that was ...

Q: Honestly, I am this close to giving up on everything. Not life, just this whole Jesus journey. He is not listening to me, and I have tried everything. Life is just constant torment and annoyance, I am SO TIRED of being broke and hating myself and the way I look. Joy is not something that comes easy for me, with all my trauma. Not to mention I am so tired of my brain attacking me all the time. If God was so "perfect" why did he make mental illness, and why are we expected to deal with it when our own BRAINS that he CREATED malfunction? I think I am done with religion. Its good to get rid of religion. By that I mean a belief people/you've made up. It sounds like either someone decieved you with a false gospel or you misunderstood, or never understood Christianity.  There is no blessing nor grace in life or eternity without YHWH.  The world is Fallen thus full of suffering. God uses all things (whichever comes into your life either directed or allowed) to strengthen your ...

Q: I don't understand people. The sad situation is her giving her kid up and giving up herself " because she's so tired" of prayers not working her way, and doesn't have faith now.  I don't know what she wants us to do? Besides she has to help herself before anyone helps her, and she's giving up on God and her faith. How can we help? She wrote:  A: The truth is we live in a fallen world. The unsaved have it worse as they dont have God's special care over their lives. Earth is likecthe only taste of Heaven theyll get but believers earth's the only Hell we will taste. Eternity is our best life, not here.  Many come for wrong reasons and embrace a false gospel; they think becoming Christian makes your life all rosey.. .nothing is further from the truth.  Far too many think God is a genie to pray to and get what they want... and that's blasphemous. We are to align and conform to His Will. Not ours.  Believers have God as our Soverign wh...

Q: I grew up as the least favorite child to a very religious woman. Mom was all about church and God. She would get my sister's hair done, while I would be messy headed. Once I wore sister's sweater and got a spanked with an cord and couldn't go to my friend's party.  I know she doesn't love me and if I am ever in need she won't care. She doesn't care.  People at her church were very cruel to me growing up and she never protected me.  I left church alone because of all this but recently I have found God again. I rededicated my life and left my living situation because I would not live in sin anymore.  I am currently homeless, my children and I are living in a temporary shelter. I have been blessed with a great job, and I am so thankful that we aren't sleeping outside. I just feel like God doesn't see me trying or care what is happening to my family.  My mother has no idea I rededicated my life ... because since she started a church (it has had like 6...

Q: Everything is going wrong in my life and things are falling apart from my job to my family relationships and even my dream. All of which I worked hard at to get here. I used to pray to God for everything and trust in Him and His plan but now life is in shambles, why keep praying to Him?? A: I am going to share this as if speaking to a born again believer, with the belief that you desire to understand and walk the righteous path, but also so you can grow in your faith. The most important thing to start with addressing here is the WHY of why you came to Jesus, as this seems to be the root issue. If you came for life enhancement you recieved a false gospel. [He isnt a genie who magically fixes our lives and gives us whatever we want.] The real gospel calls us to lay down our life, our desires, our plans [and all things self and self centeredly], to go and follow the Lord. It isnt about "me" it is about Him. Our life focus is to be "His will be done."...