CounselingChristians

Q: What does the bible say... can you be single mothers by choice? I've tried to look up scripture for it but can't find none. I know I'm still young (I'm 22) and there's still time for me to find a husband but honestly I don't see it in the cards for me. All the men at my church are already married or way older than me. And for the past two years since I've been at the church no one new has stayed. And I'm scared to go on dating websites because you never know these days what men will do. I know I should pray about it, I really want to be a mother one day but I just don't know how I would be able to get a husband without online dating. I was thinking maybe I could be a single mother by choice, but i don't want my kids to not have a father, because kids need a father figure in their life and all the men in my family are bad examples of what fathers/husbands should be. The last time I prayed for a husband a guy did find me on the internet. And we ...

Q: I am uncertain about how to proceed and need guidance. I am unsure whether I should continue to pursue my ex-boyfriend. His behavior was unacceptable; ejected me and our newborn from our home. I desire to maintain a unified family, but its leading me to question whether God intends for us to be together. A: He's not husband material. No nope nopity nope. Never reconnect to him for any kind of relationship.  Be grateful to God that You dodged a bullet. Or rather, didn't get chained to such a person for life! The devil dupes women to think they need to marry the person they had a kid with, when fornication is a one time thing, but where as chaining yourself to Satan's child for life as a wife is a life ruining trap. It's a wrong and unfortunate deceptive mindset. God has said NOT to marry unequally yoked , so it wasn't God's plans for you to be with him at all; from the beginning. Usually the woman compromises to her peril; feels she can't do it alone, fe...

I have some questions and I need some help. I gave birth 2 weeks ago today. The father isn’t in the picture and the entire pregnancy was traumatic (almost had an abortion too). The birth was also traumatic because I wasn’t allowed to leave hospital 2 weeks after, and now am in a foster placement for 12 weeks because of my mental health, which I don’t think I need as feels to be spiritual warfare. What I’m now concerned about is the baby; the biological father destroyed my life. I was so content before I met him, and the closest with God I’ve ever been, buy my life has been nothing but pain since. He completely took my off the path I was on. I guess this was partly my choice, but he made me believe he was something he totally wasn’t. Now I have his baby, im on my own, and im depressed more than ever before becsuse I just want to go home. I was just too naive at the time and thought God had sent him because I had been asking for a husband for so many years… I was wrong and should of list...

Q: Does anyone else hate motherhood? I love my children with all of my heart but most days I just struggle to even tolerate them. They are always fighting talking back and whining. I feel no joy. I believe I am a pretty good mom except I am not consistent when I comes to discipline. Sometimes I follow through sometimes I give up and walk away. I have given up everything for them. They are in a school that I cannot afford, my youngest is a competitive athlete that drains my bank account. They always want things and I feel like they are ungrateful. I became a mom at 15 & im 32 now. My 11 year old has always had an attitude (literally from birth) and it has been exhausting. I don’t understand how women want so many kids, especially the ones with terrible husbands or no husband at all. My faith in God is a roller coaster of ups and downs. I find myself dreaming of a different life, one that doesn’t exist. A: I’m curious where is their father? It sounds like you are doing this alone? ...