CounselingChristians

Q: Should you break off an engagement if your significant other isn’t as much into the church as you are? My fiancé will go to church, but will not want to go sometimes and I take the kids by myself. I feel like I’m on fire for Jesus, and he just isn’t. He often says “what has Jesus done for me?” And I try to tell him to keep the faith don’t lose that faith in him. I don’t know what to do.  We’ve been together for 14 years and have 2 children together. Ive been engaged to him for 7 years. He doesn’t seem to want to get married either, but I do so badly. Advice?  A: Guys usually know within 9 months if he wants to marry a woman. He will pursue it and get married right away. The fact that the relationship is 14 years old and you didnt marry after 1 year (let alone now on Year 7) is a very major red flag. He is using you. He is getting all the wife benefits without you having security and legal protections, as well as living in sin outside God's will. Your fornicating led to preg...

Q: I have felt an urge for the past year to start my journey to become closer to God… it’s a pull that brings me to tears when I think about it. A lot of it I feel has to do with my oldest asking questions and a lot I don’t know the answer to (she’s 6). But I do also feel like he has a purpose for me beyond answering questions for my daughter and I feel like it’s to help my husband battle his struggles with sex addiction and has hurt me so much through our years together. We separated for a little while after boundaries were crossed… and after us doing therapy separately & after asking God to show me what I should do… or more guide me, I feel like my purpose is to lead my husband to God… or just help him find his way. We are not married through church but we want to change that, we are just “married” common law. We both grew up catholic and did attend church when we were younger but didn’t grow up extremely religious. I want to change that by starting with reading the Bible, I jus...