Adoption issues & obsession with having bio kids is straining our marriage
Q: I could really use some prayers and also advice. My husband and I have been married for 20 years. We are 49 (him) and 48 (me). He might be on the autism perspective but not sure if that affects any of this. We struggled with infertility and went through treatments, but I was never able to bring a baby to term. We ended up adopting 3 teenager girls (sisters) through foster care, and to be completely honest, it has been a nightmare. The girls are now 21, 19 and 16. The only one we have a good relationship with is the 16 year old and we are completely estranged from the 19 year old. My husband has always struggled with depression and feeling like he is not close to anyone. I have tried for years to connect with him, but he says he never feels like I try, that I am cold, unemotional, etc. I don't feel like I am, but I am a reserved person. Maybe he is right and I don't show emotions enough, but this is not something that I have ever heard from anyone else in my life. We have no...