CounselingChristians

Q: I talked with non Christians on how pornography affects the spouse. I was feeling vulnerable but wanted to get my feelings out. The first response was "just leave dummy". So many people of the world just don't understand. I've realized this is why Christians are a safe space for our problems. I don't want to leave. I don't want another person. I want my marriage to be restored and to be able to glorify God with the man I love. I made a covenant and I'm not breaking it because the world thinks leaving is the answer. I will continue to pray and fight for my marriage.  What godly advice can you give on my situation. Thx. A: This response has been genericized a bit while addressing and counseling for the noted Unequally yoked spousal sin issue, since what's said can help everyone.   Firstly, yes! It is right to remain in the marriage covenant. There are very few reasons a believer can divorce a spouse, and only after doing everything possible to save it...

Q: at 24 I finally got right with God. I had finally & easily given up drugs but it only lasted 2 weeks.  Sin & Satan came at me hard, and I lost sight of God just a couple months after, and i caved and went back to everything, except I became worse. I became an evil person, someone i don't recognize at all; obviously i'm not evil in like a danger to society way, but i mean living in the most sin i've ever done, cussing more than ever before, i'm irritable, i drink, i've become so angry and cold. I think the absolute worse part of all of this, and this is so so bad, but I don't want to give up the drinking and medical marijuana, i don't want to give up some aspects of my sinful lifestyle- I want to change, but i don't if that makes sense, i guess i'm not willing to move forward, just stuck in this pit of suffering, & hate who i've become, but i can't get out of it. Every day is the same now, i'm stuck in a vicious cycle. I am ...

Q: How to move out of an emotionally and mentally abusive situation with no life guidance, parents or money A: It depends if your married, living in sin with a significant other or just in a relationship with that person. And what the issues are.  If in a relationship, it sounds unequally yoked, that the person who is sinning against you is unsaved. If that's the case, it is expected since they are not born again, so God hasn't transformed them, which means they can only live out the sin nature, which is sinning. They cant do anything but that, ( Read Genesis 6:5, Ecclesiastes 9:3 , Isaiah 53:6, Romans 8:7–8, Galatians 5:19-21, Titus 3:3, Ephesians 2:3, Romans 5:12, Psalm 14:3, Romans 7:18, Psalm 51:5, Jeremiah 17:9, Galatians 5:17, John 3:19–20). So you cant have any other expectation. Which is why we who are in Christ, are to love others as God loved us [we were enemies of God, yet he went to extreme lengths and cost for us]. We are likewise to show love, patience, grace, me...

Q: I’ve been pretty distant with God lately, I don’t want to be but every time I try to push through and read the Bible I just get so angry I have to stop. Right now, I honestly think it’s stemming from feeling like God doesn’t want me to have any friends. I haven’t had a friend in so long, and I recently stayed home all weekend to watch my sister’s pets while she went to see her best friend who lives out of state, I was happy to do it, but it also just brought up a lot of complex feelings. It’s not a simple jealousy thing when I see people doing stuff with their friends, etc. It breaks my heart, and people will say “Just focus on God” or “Make God your friend” and I’m honestly tired of hearing that bc it makes me feel like I’m not allowed to desire friendship, like I’m asking for too much just bc I want a friend. Even my sister hardly spends time with me, which hurts even more than not having friends. I’m not closed off, I’ve done everything I can to “get out there” it just doesn’t wo...

Q: Does anyone else hate motherhood? I love my children with all of my heart but most days I just struggle to even tolerate them. They are always fighting talking back and whining. I feel no joy. I believe I am a pretty good mom except I am not consistent when I comes to discipline. Sometimes I follow through sometimes I give up and walk away. I have given up everything for them. They are in a school that I cannot afford, my youngest is a competitive athlete that drains my bank account. They always want things and I feel like they are ungrateful. I became a mom at 15 & im 32 now. My 11 year old has always had an attitude (literally from birth) and it has been exhausting. I don’t understand how women want so many kids, especially the ones with terrible husbands or no husband at all. My faith in God is a roller coaster of ups and downs. I find myself dreaming of a different life, one that doesn’t exist. A: I’m curious where is their father? It sounds like you are doing this alone? ...